Month: April 2009

  • Lost Again?!

    This was my reaction when I found out that, once again, I didn’t get the position (certain parts will be exaggerated; I’ll let you decide on which ones):


    “I didn’t get it?!  You CANNOT be serious!!”


    “NOOOOOO!!!”


    “HI-YAH!”


    “Grrrr!”


    “URGH!”


    *Pouts*

    Okay, it wasn’t THAT bad.  This wasn’t my first time I didn’t get a job within that organization, so it doesn’t sting as much as it should.  It’s pretty much a running joke that I play in my head now.  Don’t worry, I’m not discouraged; once another opening pops up with them you can bet I’ll try once again!  Hopefully the next time I will have good luck on my side.  Until then, I think I’ll just accept that manager position I was offered at my club.  Not a bad consolation prize I suppose

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    In better news, I’m just a couple of days away from my trip to San Diego!  I’ll be leaving this Friday (May 1st) and will stay in San Diego until next Wednesday (May 6th).  The invitation is still open for anyone in the area who wants to hang out!  All I know right now is that I’ll probably be at SeaWorld on Saturday and beaches on the other days, with random trips to other locations throughout the city.  Mmm, I’m craving for some animal-style In-N-Out burgers right now!

    Also, I may collaborate with another Xangan on my next post.  Stay tune. 

    P.S. Hypothetically, if I were to make a vlog with another Xangan, what should we vlog about?

  • Thankful For The Recession

    ***EDIT***
    Here’s a link to missedout_onlife’s wonderful post inspired by this post.  Honestly, I think her post was even better than mine haha.  Check it out!
    ***EDIT***

    This past Friday, I went on my fourth job interview for the USTA (can’t blame me for not being persistent enough!).  I felt very good about how the interview went and hopefully I’ll finally get it this time, although I honestly wouldn’t be surprise if I lose out to an older, more qualified person as I did the other three times.   

    On the long drive back home, I started thinking about the life I’ve lived this past year and whether I should be ashamed of anything.  Going through the memories, I can think up numerous times I was screwed by the economy Gods as I tried my best to land a decent job after graduation.  It was quite a rough period and even though I had a lot of confidence in my abilities, I would be lying if I said I wasn’t feeling just a tad discouraged everytime I drew up the short straw.

    Despite those setbacks, I feel really happy with the way my life turned out since graduation, even if it wasn’t exactly how I planned it.  Because of those “setbacks”, I ended up taking on a whole new path filled with experiences and opportunities I wouldn’t have otherwise.  What are some of those things?

    Family.  I’ve gotten a helluva lot closer to them, especially my little brother.  While in college the past four years, I didn’t get a chance to hang out with him as often as we would have liked to.  Now that I’m out but still in the area, we have bonded so much.  His grades has risen ever since I’ve begun tutoring him and his tennis skills are increasing exponentially.  You know what’s the best part?  I never force any of this on him.  He willingly spend as much time (that I could allow) with me, even as far as waking up at 4:30am in the morning so he can come to work with me.  The connection I gained with with my brother was quite a gift, and that alone would have have made up for all my misfortunes.

    Tennis.  Perhaps I actually needed this time to build up my tennis credentials, which certainly has increased a lot.  Not only did I become more well known with people in the tennis industry (and thus increase my connections), I’ve also grown more knowledgeable in my tennis crafts i.e. stringing and coaching.  I didn’t originally picture myself working at the club I’m at now, but it very well may be one of the best things that could have happened to me.

    Travel.  No way I would have been able to take off for all the trips I ended up going on had I gotten one of the jobs I pursued from the beginning!  Being able to experience different places and atmospheres was wonderful and I definitely haven’t got rid of the traveling bug just yet.  What a pleasure it was to visit places I’ve been meaning to go to all my life and getting a chance to meet up with people I otherwise wouldn’t have met (like a lot of my fellow bloggers on here!).  That actually brings me to the last experience that might not have happened had things been different -

    Xanga.  Did you know the reason why I initially started to spend more time on Xanga was because of the free time I had during my period of unemployment?  Had I gotten the jobs I wanted, I know I wouldn’t have had the time to read and write all that I have and I probably would have abandoned this site altogether.  I most likely wouldn’t have been able to connect with almost all of the people I’ve gotten to know over these past months.  Now, wouldn’t that have been a terrible shame?  Seriously, Xanga is filled with so many brilliant, smart, charismatic and funny people and I feel quite priviledged to say I’m a part of this community.

    Sure, perhaps had my path been different it could have led to even better experiences, but let’s not think about those coulda-woulda-shouldas for now.  All I know is that I’m grateful for the experiences I did end up gaining and I kinda have to owe it to this crappy economy.  While you haven’t been too nice to me over this past year, you had inadvertently given me so much priceless things that I didn’t realize I wanted.  For that, thank you

  • Pictures Of You, Pictures Of Me

    My turn to jump on the bandwagon .  Way too many pictures coming up:

    1. A picture of you in your room.


    Yes, she’s biting my racket.  No, that isn’t her leg on the left hand side (that’s mine).

    2. A picture of you feeling very energetic.


    What can I say?  I was having a good time that night.

    3. A picture of you on your birthday.


    My 22nd birthday last year.  My closest high school buddies were able to make it and it was pretty awesome.

    4. The youngest picture of yourself you can find in digital form.


    Pimpin’ since 1992.

    5. A picture of you in one of your favorite outfits.


    Not necessarily my favorite, but we did get some looks that night.

    6. A picture of you making a goofy face at the camera.


    It’s a pretty goofy picture in general.

    7. A picture of you in a team or club you were in. 


    My lovely UMBC Tennis Club team.

    8. A picture of a day or night you regret.

    I honestly couldn’t find any.  Things happen for a reason I always say.

    9. A picture of the real you.


    Pensive.

    10. The most recent picture of you.


    Wow, has it really been that long since I last had a picture taken of me?  I guess I’ll need to remedy that when I go to San Diego next week!

    11. A picture of you being absolutely ridiculous.


    We looked like extras at a gay porn shoot -_-

    12. A picture of a time in your life that’s over, but you wish it wasn’t.


    My time in Hong Kong.  Can’t wait to go back!

    13. A picture of a time in your life that’s over, and you couldn’t be more thankful that it is.


    High school was okay, but I’m so glad I was able to get out of there and expand my horizons.

    14. A picture of you that you had no idea was being taken.


    Mom snap this shot of my little brother and me after he slid into my face.

    15. A picture of you when you were a different person than you are now.


    Ah my shyer, long hair, non-smiling days.

    16. A picture of you in a fashion “don’t”.


    Tried on my friend’s stuff to see if it worked on me.  It doesn’t.

    17. A picture of yourself that you hate.


    I got shot in the mouth several times during a paintball match.  Did not taste yummy at all.

    18. A picture that describes how you’d like to spend everyday.

    Tough one.  It’s either:


    Playing tennis or


    Relaxing on the beach

    19. A picture of a time when everything was changing.


    My high school buddies and I all graduated college.  Time went by so fast.

    20. A picture that makes you smile.


    Oh noes!  Domo!

    21. A picture of the best day (or night) of your life.

    I don’t think I should post that picture

    Geez, that took way longer than expected.

  • Layout Change, Recent Economic Effects, San Diego Trip Update, and… Gor Gor!

    I haven’t updated since last Tuesday because I’ve been too busy taking advantage of the nice weather and playing tons of tennis.  About time it started behaving like spring here!  Alas, today was the first rainy day of this past week, so now I got some time to sit and write.  Here’s some mini updates on some recent happenings.

    New Layout and New Section

    Noticed any changes to my home page lately?  I had repressedwriter do her magic to give my page a much needed face lift.  What do you think so far?  If you want her to pimp your site out, check out her post here for more information.  She’s Roadlesstaken approved! 

    I’ve also added a new module to my home page titled “My Most Popular/Favorite Posts”.  There, you’ll have links to some of my greatest hits and some of my personal favorite posts I’ve created.  If you’re a new reader, feel free to check out some of my previous posts that you may have missed.

    The Economy Versus My Club (Guess Who’s Winning?)

    Sport and fitness clubs are getting their butts handed to them by the economy, and that’s including the club I’m working at right now.  With so many of our members leaving due to their own personal money woes and competition from area clubs, our club has been in the red for a while now.  All we can do is try to ride this economic storm, but unfortunately that comes with a price.  There has been so many cuts everywhere and I feel so bad for many of my co-workers’ situations.  One of my co-workers just had a baby, but his hours are being cut in half.  Another co-worker of mine had her hours reduced to just 4 hours a week!  It’s even affecting the higher up people, with many of them taking drastic salary cuts or even going back to hourly wages.

    Ironically enough, I’m actually getting promoted because of all these cuts!  Since my manager is scaling back on his hours, I’m footing some of his managerial responsibilities.  With that comes a slight raise, a better title, and more hours.  Strange how things work huh?

    I’m happy for my circumstances, but I’m terribly worried about my fellow co-workers and the club itself.  Hopefully we’ll all pull through somehow.

    San Diego Trip Update

    As some of you already know, I’m visiting San Diego again (solo this time!) from Friday, May 1st until Wednesday, May 6th.  I’ll be staying with the Xangan formally known as BomCamChuoi again and will hopefully see some of the old Xangans I met down there, as well as some new ones!  Anybody gonna be in the area around that time?  If you want to meet up just let me know below or send me a private message!

    I’m still not totally sure on everything I’m going to do down there.  So far, I’m just planning on relaxing on some of the many San Diego beaches and doing some local sight seeing.  I also want to go to at least one big amusement park while I’m down there, most likely on that Saturday.  I was thinking Sea World, but does anyone else have some better suggestions?  My friend suggested Legoland and Wild Animal Park.  Anybody have any opinions or experiences with any of the amusement parks I’ve mentioned?

    Whatever I do, I’m sure I’ll enjoy my time.  Please don’t rain down there like the last time I went!

    Just For Fun:  Gor Gor!

    My brother has the tendency to keep asking me stupid questions, so after a while I just don’t bother to response to him.  Unfortunately for me, he would then proceed to say my name (“Gor Gor” is big brother) over and over again in odd ways until I finally succumb.  Below is a rather accurate reenactment of what I’m talking about (please excuse the slight sound delay):

    Ah, aren’t little brothers such a delight?

  • Female Accessories That Can Weaken Me Like Kryptonite

    Obviously, personality beats out looks any day for me.  Pretty girls are a dime a dozen, but to have that winning combination of being both pretty AND having an amazing personality is so rare to find. 

    However, It’s hard to see someone’s personality at first glance, so clearly physical things are going to be noticed by me at first. I’ve realized over the years that there were a few things a girl can wear that had the potential to um, disarm me.  Before I knew it, I would stop whatever I was doing and just find my eyes unconsciously lingering over at the girl’s directions for however long it takes for me to break out of the trance.  I’ve gotten better at handling these effects over the years, but occasionally I would still find myself weakened momentarily before shaking out of it. 

    Since some people were curious, I decided to list a sample of the accessories one can wear that will most likely draw my attention.  It’s not a comprehensive list, but it hits the major items that could potentially stun me.  I will also give each item a power factor (i.e. the effect on me) ranging from 1 (can illicit a quick glance) to 5 (I’m under your spell 0_0).

    (Note to readers:  Please do not use this against me if we ever meet in real life )


    Heels
    Power Factor:  1
    Additional Comments:  This barely made it on my list.  In the past, I have caught myself looking at a girl sporting a nice pair of heels.  Then again, it could just be the clanking sounds they tend to make that grabs my attention. *shrugs*


    Long Earrings
    Power Factor:  2
    Additional Comments:  The longer and/or bigger the earrings, the greater the effect!


    Sundresses
    Power Factor:  2
    Additional Comments:  Specifically, yellow and white sundresses have a much stronger influence on me.  No clue why.


    Anklets
    Power factor:  3
    Additional Comments:  Bracelets are far too common.  Anklets are the way to go!


    Sexy Eyeglass Frames
    Power Factor:  4
    Additional Comments:  I heard that the sexy smart look on girls is the 5th leading causes of death for guys.  Go ahead, wiki it.


    Flower in Hair
    Power Factor:  4.5
    Additional Comments:  *Snaps out of it* Geez, you know it’s bad when just a picture can mess you up.

    ????????????
    Power Factor:  5
    Additional Comments:  Yeah right, like I’m going to spill my ultimate weakness right out in public?  Please!

    Here’s a bonus item (although it’s not really an accessory):


    Tennis Players with Game
    Power Factor:  4.5
    Additional Comments:  I love seeing a skillful girl passionately slamming balls for hours on end (in before “that’s what she said”)!

    Hmm.  After looking over this list, it seems I should try to avoid going to any women tennis tournament in Hawaii (unless I really want to see myself running into walls and tripping all over the place ). 

    Alright, I’m going to stop writing any more on this topic before I give myself a heart attack.  Damn these weaknesses!

  • “So, What Did You Major In?”

    Urgh.

    Over time, I’ve started to hate hearing someone ask me that question.  It’s not that I’m ashamed of what I majored in; it’s the way that some people obviously start to judge me in their heads.  Here’s an example:

    Person:  “So, what did you major in?”
    Me:  “I majored in psychology.”
    Person:  “Oh, okay.” 

    (Pause for a few seconds)

    Person:  “So um, what do you want to do with that?”

    Now on paper (well, in this case on computer), that whole conversation seems innocent enough.  However, in person I can pick up slight body language and/or tones that alerts me that the person is thinking something else.  In this case, I sense that the person is thinking this:

    Oh, psychology.  I was expecting accounting, science, or information systems.  What can he do with that major?  Not looking to make money probably.

    I don’t like acting paranoid thinking that everyone who asked me that question proceeds to think in that manner, but I know for a fact some people have.  Most of those people have been older aquaintances or relatives, some that don’t even know what psychology is (“So, do you read minds or something?”, my aunt once asked me).  In a lot of ways, their judgmental attitudes have made me feel like I’ve made a bad decision for choosing my major.

    Look, going through college I already knew the limitations of a psychology major.  Unless I went into grad school, I knew it would be very hard to find a great job that relates to psychology.  I think my friend Tricia, a fellow psychology major, put it best:  “I have the most useful useless degree ever… I can do anything and nothing at the same time… yay for psych!”

    Indeed, I have encountered a lot of obstacle since graduating.  Even though I graduated magna cum laude with tons of honors and experiences, I’ve had a hard time finding a job in something I want to do with just a B.A. in psychology.  Of course a part of it has to do with the economy, but I know a part of it has to do with my major as well.

    With all that being said, I do not regret the decision to be a psychology major.  I firmly believe that I wouldn’t be the understanding and empathetic person I am today had I done something else.  I’m pretty sure that had I wanted to, I could have majored in science or computers and would have done well.  However, I knew that in the long run I wouldn’t be happy doing stuff like that.  Sure, money might be better, but I prefer to deal with the more human aspects of life.  Given the chance, I would choose something I’m passionate about over something that can make me tons of money.  In my mind, happiness trumps monetary reward any day.

    At the moment, I’m still pursuing a job working for the USTA.  It may not make the most money, but I would be doing something I love (tennis) while getting the chance to travel across the country.  As a back-up, I’m still planning to attend graduate school in the fall to become an industrial/organizational psychologist (which, surprisingly, makes pretty decent money).  The only downside with that is the cost of attending graduate school, as well as the fact that I would be returning to school (papers and exams again?  Yuck!).

    Given the chance to go back in time, I would definitely choose to be a psychology major all over again.  It can be a harder and longer path to success, but I know that in the end I would be the happiest doing this over something else.  I just wish I didn’t feel the need to be so defensive about it all the time.

  • Answers to TheCheshireGrins’ Questions

    TheCheshireGrins gave me these questions:

    1. If you could travel any place in the world, where would you go?

    2. Who is your favorite person and why?

    3. Who are your role models in life?

    4. What is your greatest goal in life?

    5. What do you see yourself doing in ten years?

    She also gave me these rules:

    Here’s the Deal (Rules)

    1.  Leave a comment saying you want to be interviewed.
    2.  I will respond by message asking you five questions.
    3.  You’ll update your journal with my five questions, as well as your five answers.  Remember to tag me so I can read it.
    4.  You’ll include this explanation.
    5.  You’ll ask other people if they want to be interviewed by you.

    Here are my answers:

    1. If you could travel any place in the world, where would you go?

    I eventually want to travel all over the world, but if I had to pick only one place I would say Japan.  There’s seem to be so much stuff to do and see over there!  I would absolutely want to be in the audience for one of those crazy Japanese game shows!  Of course, Tokyo would be my first destination if I ever visited Japan.

    2. Who is your favorite person and why?

    To be honest, I have a really hard time answering this question because I don’t really have an absolute favorite.  I generally have a good group of people that I trust and count on, but I don’t have any one person that I absolutely admire the most.  I suppose whenever I find an amazing significant other I would say she is my favorite person, but until then I’ll just have to give this answer for now.

    3. Who are your role models in life?

    Another tough one!  There are probably quite a few people I could say that I look up to in my real life, such as my old high school tennis coach.  However, the first two people that came to mind were people I’ve never met, but really admire.

    The first person is Will Smith, the actor.  He seems like a genuinely good person that loves his family and life.  He’s a very likable person too.  I think I would be pretty happy if people saw me in the same light as him.

    The second person is Rafael Nadal, the tennis player.  He’s around my age, yet has accomplished so much more than I could ever dream of!  He’s an extraordinary tennis player that I would love to emulate, especially since we’re both left handed.  What stands out the most is his character.  He has such a strong mentality on the court and very rarely will you see him upset.  Off the court, he’s very respectful and humble.  Tennis is very lucky to have such a respectful person at the top of the game.

    P.S. I wouldn’t mind having Nadal’s guns either, aka his massive arms that no tennis player really should have.  He claims he doesn’t work out either…whatever!

    4. What is your greatest goal in life?

    I’m not really sure if I have that figured out yet.  I guess if I have to say something right now, I would like to be able to leave a legacy or something that people will remember me long after I’m gone.  It would be pretty cool to see how much I can influence the world around me as well as the people I’ve had a chance to contact. 

    5. What do you see yourself doing in ten years?

    In ten years, I’ll be 33 years old 0_0 .  By then, I expect to be married to the woman I’ve been searching for all my life.  I’ll probably like some mini-Alexes running around by that time.  Not sure if I’ll stay in Maryland, although I don’t think I’ll have a big problem with it if I do.  I’m pretty sure I’ll still be living in the United States, possibly even Canada.  Ideally, by this time I’m either a successful industrial/organization psychologist or a very important person working with the USTA (United States Tennis Association).

    Alright your turn to let me know if you want me to ask you some questions!  Just let me know and I’ll send you a message soon with my questions for you.  I’ll try to give you some good ones

  • My “Fantastic” Date With the Bubble Tea Girl

    Ahh, I’ve finally got around to writing about my date.  I was going to write about this yesterday, but as some of you might have read in my pulse I had to pick someone up from the airport and I got a lovely ticket on the way for almost running down a MTA police officer.  In my defense, he was freaking jaywalking in the middle of traffic!  I slowed down, but then I thought he was waving me to keep on going, so I did.  Apparently he was actually telling me to stop, but I didn’t get that message.  Fail!  Luckily, it was only a warning, so no fine or points taken off.  I’ll definitely be more aware of random police folks crossing the roads at the airport from now on!

    Alright, let’s get back to that date.

    I initially met her at the bubble tea shop where she works and where I visit quite often.  We started talking after a while and we found out that we were both the same age and were interested in one another.  She was pretty cute, so I thought why not? 

    The date started off on the wrong foot right from the get go.  She had given me a street address to pick her up, but didn’t tell me her city.  When I punched it in the GPS, it found the address to be at Towson.  It wasn’t until after I drove an hour over there that I found out she was actually in Baltimore!  Urgh. 

    After that big detour, I finally picked her up and we decided to just hang out at the mall and get lunch.  I had other plans, but those got rained out (literally).  It was okay though; the main thing I wanted to do was get to know her better, so what we did didn’t matter as much.  Coming in, I knew we may have a slight language barrier since she was a FOB.  As it turned out, the language barrier was the least of the problems.

    Here were some of the “fun” things I found out about her throughout the date:

    She’s a bit too high maintanence for me.
      Whenever she got the chance, she would take out her mirror and make up and go to town on her face.  I guess she wanted to make a good impression for me, but throughout the whole date?  Seriously, it wasn’t needed.

    She dressed a little too skanky that day.  Don’t get me wrong; she did look pretty good in her outfit and it would have worked very well had it been sunny and warm.  That day, it was extremely windy, rainy and cold.  Everyone else was bundled up for the weather, including me, so she stuck out.  I even asked her before we left if she wanted to get a jacket, but she tells me “no, jackets make me look fat”.  Hmm, okay.

    She’s apparently prejudice against umbrellas.  As previously stated it was raining like a mofo that day, so I offered to hold a big umbrella over the both of us.  However, she refused it, telling me that she “thinks umbrellas are ugly and would rather get wet.”  Hmm, alright.

    She might also be a little racist.  As we’re driving, I asked her how she likes Baltimore so far.  She responded by saying “too many black people”, except replace “black people” with another term 0_0.

    She had problems with food.  Somewhere in our conversation, she mentions how she usually only eats once a day because she’s “too busy”.  Later, when we went out to eat for lunch, she doesn’t really order much to eat even though she has not eaten at all that day.  She said that she wasn’t very hungry, but I wasn’t sure if I believe her.  Which leads me to –

    She had quite the distorted view of her body.  She was by no means fat.  I would almost go as far as say she was petite, but she thought she was some hippo or something.  She claims to have gained 30 pounds since she came to the United States 8 months ago, so she’s trying not to eat as much.  In my head I’m thinking “damn, did you weigh like 70 pounds before??”  There goes another check on the cons list.

    She had some “interesting” pictures on her phone.  While showing me her phone pictures, there was one picture that popped out immediately.  It was of her kissing another girl on the lips while a shirtless guy was behind them, kinda holding them together.  Bemused, I asked her about the picture and she told me “oh, that’s my sister and her boyfriend.  We get silly sometimes whenever I visit her.  All three of us like to sleep in the same bed together!”  Umm…

    She was texting her ex-boyfriend throughout the date.  Granted, she said she didn’t really want to talk to him and he was the one that kept texting and calling her.  Seriously though, could you have maybe hold off on that while you’re on a date with another guy?  That can wait until after the date right?  Actually, there was a reason why it couldn’t wait -

    She was meeting up with her ex-boyfriend after our date was over.  Again, she claims that she didn’t want to see him and that he wanted to give her back some stuff or whatever.  I ended up driving her to the bubble tea place where she works so she could meet up with him there.  Yup.

    With all that being said, I’m gonna put myself out there and say she probably isn’t a keeper and I will most likely not go on a second date with her.  Perhaps I’m being too picky, but there were far too many cons than pros with that girl.  I might consider giving her a second chance if she ask me out, but I think I won’t be too disappointed if we don’t.

    Oh well, at least I got a free bubble tea drink at the end =P

    P.S.  Here’s Dylan_Dysast3r’s picture version of my date.  Well worth a click!