November 25, 2008
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Things I Miss About Being in a Relationship
The other day, I met up with an ex who was not only my longest relationship but was also the only girl I’ve ever truly loved. It took a while to get over her, but I eventually did. When people give the cliche advice that time heals all wounds, they are absolutely right. I never would have imagine just a year ago that I would eventually be so comfortable around her again. I still massively care about her and hope only good things to come to her, but I no longer feel the same love feelings I used to have.
So anyways we met up for dinner to catch up on some old times and we ended up talking for hours about what seems like everything. Eventually it got to the topic of a failed romantic adventure I had (that some of you might know about). After telling my ex about it, she kinda laughed and told me, “That’s such an Alex Chan thing to do.”
For whatever reason, that made me think about my love life over the course of the past 4-5 years. From the summer before senior year of high school to the summer before senior year of college I have pretty much been in three back to back long term relationships. Since last summer, I’ve had a few “encounters” and dates, but nothing too serious or long lasting. I started to think that I was just very lucky during these past 4-5 years of my life and rationalized that now all the good girls are either 1) taken or 2) too far away from me.
You would think that after being in relationships for so long I would relish being single, but that isn’t the case at all. If you watch How I Met Your Mother, I’m more of a Marshall than a Barney. “I’m good for couple, bad for single,” as Marshall once said.
I feel like I’ve matured and learned a lot of lessons during my time being single. I’m staying patient for now, but I honestly can’t wait until I’m in another relationship so I can apply some of those things I’ve learn, as well as take in all the perks of being in a relationship. What perks?
Below are my Top 5 Things I Miss About Being in a Relationship:
5. Having someone to go do things with all the time. I didn’t realize how much I missed this aspect until it was gone. It’s so great having someone you can always ask to go eat brunch, see a movie, watch a concert, see a show, or even just be lazy together. I will never take that for granted ever again.
4. Showing off my girl. Not like treating her like an object of mine, but just being able to say to someone “Hey, see that gorgeous, intelligent, funny girl over there? For whatever reason, she’s with a shmuck like me.” It makes me feel like one of the luckiest guys in the world.3. Being able to act a fool with someone. In other words, being allowed to expose myself in ways I wouldn’t around others. Singing at the top of my lungs or being super cheesy with a girl, completely not caring how ridiculous we sound, is such a refreshing feeling. If I ever mention in the future about things that I take great pleasure in that are the simpler things in life, mark this down as one of them.
2. Having an excuse to be my hopeless romantic self. I don’t care what people say about chivalry and being a gentleman nowadays, but I’m doing my best to keep it alive and well. I’m the type of guy that watches romantic comedies, sees all those meet-cute situations and says “Who decided those things can’t happen in real life?” When I had a girlfriend, it gave me the excuse to go all out at times, whether it be surprising my girl with flowers and her favorite soda pop during a particularly stressful time, or getting a local a cappella group to pop up and sing for her in a public place (which sadly didn’t work out as planned, but that’s a story for another time). It can take a lot of effort, but the end result of seeing my girl genuinely surprised and ecstatic makes it all worth it.
Finally, the number one thing I miss the most:
1. Simply, the feeling of falling in love.What are some of the best parts of being in a relationship for you? Are the things on my list similar to what you would put on a list like this?
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Comments (143)
I think what I miss most, is just knowing that someone knows so much about me, and still loves me. I miss being loved whole heartedly.
STOP IT!! I’m trying to be happy single! XD I still have a while to go. D: Recently, I have been getting lonely though. I miss having feelings and growing with someone. =|
oh my gosh.
I AGREE.
BUT IW ILL NOT BE IN ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP TIL I’M READY
so one year, and counting. =P hahaa.. Well, it’s my fault i’m single. i just ..reject all the guys.
hi
@indiechaos - hear hear.@XxFtbllGrlxX - Sorry =D @immaairheadxl - I think you enjoy single life a whole lot more than me. I’m tired of it!@d2H5b - Really Marv, that’s the most response you could give me?? Once more, with feeling! haha
@Roadlesstaken - hahahhahahaha..yeah, it’s been a wild year for me. you can say that. half the year / i just studied my ass off& tan, and enjoy fine dining..the other half i partied my ass off.
i’m not ready to settle. my heart is never on my sleeve. i..just..can’t seem to put my walls down? = it’s really bad
and when i did, for BARELY.. a little. i got screwed over. i know i shouldn’t judge it that guys eventually fade. ..but uhm, i do lol
I love cuddling with my boyfriend and being able to confide in him about almost everything.
#5 and #3 were ones I really connected with. Also, this phrase in particular: “being allowed to expose myself in ways I wouldn’t around others.” I think being able to expose your inner thoughts and feelings to someone who connected with them on a deep level is one of the great things about being in a relationship. Ahhh–your post made me nostalgic!
While I miss all those things, I still enjoy the single life much more than I thought I would. The problem with relationships is that although you receive those benefits, there’s still the hassle of going through jealousy/arguments, integrating friends/family, and dealing with differences in habits or philosophies. Anyway, to me, it’s less burdening to be single. I do get nostalgic thinking of those things though, but I figured I’ll enjoy my single life while I can. It’s not as bad as I used to think of it.
Love your song selection! Your page is awesome its very simple and gosh, I have to say its pretty sad and lonely when the your song “Unbelieveable” – Craig David played….it really touch me..right where it hurts and right where it feels so right…*sigh* relationship really do suck when you fall…. i swear ill never touch one ever again….i have to say.. i’m so out and done with relationship… they are too hard to find and they are too hard to trust now…. that i rather stay by myself because i know for sure that is the best way! So yeah, i do feel pretty good about letting go of my job…. ive never felt so good and stress from a job like this before….. i am at the same do feel sad because now i wont have any money for the holiday…. sucks for that eh?!* — so yeah, how about your job hunt going so far? Any luck yet??? If not, good luck to you still and i still have very good hope in you. ^_^ Thanks for the good luck… i really do need that…. i really really hope i do find one soon……
love your blog! i would love to give you a list on my love but i think this time i’m going to do it a bit different and what i’m actually going to do is post a resposne to your blog….. so yeah, just give me a minute or so… because it has been a while since i’ve really thought about it…^^
@Lynn1013 - Sorry for making you feel nostalgic! A little nostalgia here and there never hurt haha@x_onholiday - I wish I could be just like you and enjoy single life. So many guys my age would rather be single, but not me for some reason. While I glad I have more freedom to do other things and being able to save a lot of money that I would normally spend with a girl, truly miss all the perks. If they come with some downsides such as arguments or whatnot so be it .
@Pur3_S3duction - Haha no problem, I look forward to seeing what you put down. Thanks for all the compliments! You’re too kind really. I absolutely love that Craig David song. I want that song to be played at my wedding someday.Ah job hunting is so stressful, especially when you’re waiting for people to call you back. Urgh…
@kc_sarah - If I had put down an honorable mention section cuddling would be on that list, as well as falling asleep together and playing with my girl’s hair
Bella makes me so mad , i can’t BELIEVE her . haha wow, i’m getting mad over a fictional character from a book . i never thought i’d see that day coming (: haha! but taylor swifts performance was pretty good at the american music awards! i love the song she sang, but it seemed like she was going to cry during the performance. i’m suprised Taylor didn’t sing (Forever and Always) – the song she wrote for joe jonas !
@ilovethosejonasboys89 - It was a nice song, and I’m not normally a fan of country. I think she was starting to cry in the beginning, right before she stood up.
yeah! that was pretty insane! and afterwords, they asked joe and nick, what it was like seeing their ex girlfriends. and they responded “fine.”
@ilovethosejonasboys89 - Haha it would have been funny if they said “horrible” or something. They had to have felt uncomfortable in the beginning when Jimmy Kimmel was roasting them.
Holy cow! i know! i feel so bad for them. and tonight, they’re actually going on the Jimmy Kimmel show! how awkward can things get !?
i’d rather be in a relationship then be single too. haha.
crap..i dun even know what u guys r talking bout feels like… =(……
neva had a relationship at all..=( neva had someone to call bf..neva had someone to cuddle except my pet doggies and my parents….=(
but i am still happy being single!!! coz i know i find someone to do that stuff witrh someday..and if i dont i just get doggies … xD
i feel sad ..i neva had a bf..so i neva really done any of those stuff u miss…=(
but i know i meet someone to those stuff with someday…xD if i dont i just get doggies …..
@s_h_a_sha - I think I was the most fine with being single before I started having relationships haha. I’m still surprise that you haven’t had a bf yet. Are them Malaysian guys blind or something? Haha
Awwww…….. =o(
Awe, why did you have to go and write a blog entry about love…Everything you mentioned are all things I miss. I really miss the feeling of having someone by my side every night in bed. I miss hugging the guy I love. To rest my head over his chest and listen to his heart beat…to feel him breath…to connect with his soul…to cuddle in his warmth…to know that I’m the luckiest guy in the world to have someone that loves me just as much as I love him…When you’re not with significant other, how can that be called life? Without it, there is no life…just mundane repetition and loneliness.I won’t give up.
everything you mentioned is what i miss as well. i’ve been single since march and i’m just waiting for the right guy to come along. usually i’m single for no longer than a 5 or so months. so i’m just waiting (impatiently) for mr right to come along
@ChineseTwinkiePrincess - Aye, hope that didn’t touch home to much X_X . P.S. When you free? We still need to hang out sometime soon. I’m still waiting on that daycare person to contact me back
@Pearls_of_Trust - Spoken like a true romantic haha. Tell you what, I won’t give up if you don’t give up. @B1ANCACACA - I know how you feel. Waiting is starting to get old -_-
ahh, i see. haha. my thinking too much isn’t a good thing a lot of times. haha.
@d_loves@datingish - I agree. I wish I could slow my mind down at times
Happy Thanksgiving, sweetie! :]Can you feel my new-ness? :pI barely set this xanga up like a week ago.So I’m looking to get some feedback/friends.:]I also have a quotes/icon site up.It will be updated soon.So go check it out :]it’s xanga.com/crazii_quotesz ♥Thanks!Bytheway- I loved this post
It makes me think of all the times I’ve run into my exs.& my old feelings usually come rushing back.They are never as intenesely as they were before, though.Currently, I’m in a new relationship (since Oct.) butI know that my list would sound similar to yoursexcept mine would have “being able to talk to them with your problems”& “knowing that no matter what, you and your significant other are in it together.”Blahblahblah :]<3 Lindy
@Roadlesstaken - Deal. Someday, somewhere, we’ll find our respective loves.
@lindylopez - aw thanks for reading! Good luck with your new xanga! What kinda things did you have in mind for it?
hello i think i fell in love with you.
you want to keep chivalry alive…that’s perfection the making
thank you for showing me that there is still someone who wants to keep chivalry alive.
i hope things work out
@Roadlesstaken -
awww…really that would be awesome and that is a really nice song….i’m sure it would be a wonderful selection…
hahaha…same here too… i’m still waiting for them to give me a call back…and i have to say it can be a pain… lol..
@MegaxGurls2 - Haha no problem. Well, you just made me blush like whoa
Everything you’ve said is so very true. The only thing I would add is knowing without any doubt that if you fall…actually, when you fall, you’ve got someone to help you back up, and will stay by your side through whatever life throws at you.Cheers, and great post,Taylor
@skylar_rose - That’s a really good one that I forgot about. I do miss having a partner in crime haha. Ahhh…
i don’t mind =)
@MegaxGurls2 - Awesome…I can’t believe I’ve never heard of this band before.
visit my xanga more then lol, i put up lyrics to all sorts of songs =]
The best thing about being in a relationship is having someone to care for who cares for me.
I’m free almost everyday from 9:30 – about 1…. unless I have a meeting or shopping to do.
I respectfully disagree that time heals all wounds. For I believe that actions heal all wounds and time is simply a side-effect. The more memories, you are filled with, the more you can look back at the hurtful moments and simply smile.
thats really cute, it really lightened up my day to think there’s guys out there who still do that.. haha. hope the job situation eases up a bit for you!
@ChineseTwinkiePrincess - Sounds good…I try to call you sometime next week so we can chill.@DalkeeOppa251 - Hmm, very interesting point of view. I can see where you’re coming from with that.@chocolattt - Thanks, I’m glad I my post made you smile. I wish you good luck on your exams!
I love all those reasons especially number 1 and 3. It is just so soothing to know you can act as crazy/stupid/ridiculous as your wish with someone. I think another reason I love about being in a relationship is how important and special your significant other can make you feel.
@litt0_h0nii - I absolutely love being able to act goofy/ridiculous with a SO. It feels like an “us against the world” type of thing. I agree with your reason as well; it’s always nice getting compliments from someone that really cares about you
I’m with you on 1, 3, and 5.
aw… makes me want to have a bf.. sigh
but i love everything you wrote about being in a relationship..simply being in love ,,,, sigh,… >.<
@sereplexity - Thanks! The post loves you too @bbomimonster - Glad you enjoyed it. Sorry if it made you nostalgic haha. Been hearing from a lot of people that it brings up some memories.
“I started to think that I was just very lucky during these past 4-5 years of my life and rationalized that now all the good girls are either 1) taken or 2) too far away from me.”You are quite lucky if you’ve had 3 back to back long term relationships. I on the other hand was not so lucky. All short term and I’ve stayed single for the past 3 years and from my past 3 years, I have concluded the same thing…that all the great guys are taken or too far away from me.
I miss it.
@InlUvWiTuRsMiLe - Aw, I’m sorry to hear you share the same fate as me haha. Yea wassup with that? Hmm I think there should be more xanga girls from Maryland…
eh. congrats being popular.
@thepenguinishere - Eh it’s cool, but I honestly don’t care too much. Wasn’t too long ago I would just get maybe 1 comment per post and I was satisfied with that
Gah. I am just adding in a pool of already sad stories, but I know exactly what you mean. I saw your post and I immediately clicked on it. *sigh. I wish was in a relationship too, but I figure that my time will soon come. Good people deserve good things! As naive as this sound, but you seem like a good person. Your time will come!
@vistersxx - Don’t worry, I like to think the same thing as well
I think there should be more xanga guys like you in California. heheh
@InlUvWiTuRsMiLe - It’s a big state, I’m sure there are
got a lil teary eyed reading your list. *sigh*
Awesome entry. Although it does make me envious that there aren’t people like you in my area…
somehow i feel being in a relationship seems different from falling in love. it can be the most peaceful relationship ever but no feelings inside. it’s hard to meet someone that can create the butterflies that used to flutter around.
@babelost - Nah I agree being in a relationship does not guarantee falling in love. However, being in a relationship give someone a better chance of falling in love with a person and to have that feeling reciprocated
i`m lovin` the single life (: wee. almost a year of being single. i miss cuddling, longg hugs (: but i can get those from my friends ;D but its also having someone there :]
but its also great having someone there :] *** oopies i`m likee soo tired ;D hi i`m jenny btw lol
@kimster324 - Aw really? I never expected my post to cause such strong reactions.@Lulabell_88 - Shoot, some of the girls that have commented on here should try to move over to MD haha. We’re low on good girls over here! =P
wanna chat on aim? ;D lol
@lazygrlx3 - Hi there Jenny =) . Mmmm probably not tonight, toooo tired
loll kk. gnites ;D byes
I totally agree to this one. =)
@Barby_debbie - Awesome, glad you do ^_^
@Roadlesstaken - i guess i am really sentimental….hopeless romantic.
Hello Road Less taken!
I have to say that having a companion in your life is like giving the gift of sight to someone that’s suffered from hyperopia… It’s like a sixth sense that’s been dormant for so long, but once it’s unleashed, it heightens all of your other senses. It improves the quality of life. Even in the brief moments when you’re away from them, caught up in the tedious tasks & obligations of the day, kowing that there’s someone sending you silent smiles knowing that they’re there with you in every moment, holding you close in their thoughts & heart. And then it come to fruition when you receive a text out of the blue… And especially after the longest days when you feel defeated… there’s someone to come home to that knows & loves you unconditionally.
i hope you find someone
@lovelygal2luv - Hello there! I can see you put some thought into this comment . Thank you for that.@five_twenty - I’m sure eventually I will. I just wish they could hurry up and get to me sooner rather than later! Oh well, I guess it would be worth the wait.
ii love yur songs
hmms.. what korean dramas have you seen ? x) blahs i dun usually go on xanga… ask me for my aim if you wanna chat ;D cyaa
love the post !
@sO_SeDuCtiVe_Jen - The post loves you back
Thank you so much
Well, I’m not trying to make my Xangainto this huge ridonkulously fabulousblog that EVERYONE checks out just because.All this account really is for is to vent.And interact with people on Xanga.I mean, I could probably do that through myquote site, but its more satisfyingif I just had an xanga for me :]I tend to post a lot more voice blogsthan actual xanga blogs,which is more convenient since my Sidekick broke.But I should be getting a new one in a couple of weeks.So it’s all gravy.& until then, I’m just going to be doing my best to update it whenever possible.I want to add more things to it to be entertainingto the vistors that actually do visit my xanga.But I’m my mind is blank.Any suggestions? (:<3 Lindy
I know I commented on this already, but man I miss being in a relationship. It’s been over a year. It’s hard because I’m still dealing with my ex from last year. I just want it all to stop
Another nice post. I miss those things too. There just aren’t any guys here. Until that day comes, I will just be patient like everyone else.
@buiptammy - where are you from again? I’m sure there’s plenty around, they’re just not immediately noticeable. I would say the same about good girls in MD haha
I am from California and good guys are rare over here. Maryland is at least a little better since you are close to D.C. and Virginia. I used to live in Virginia and I think there are more date-able people there.
@buiptammy - seriously? Well I suppose that make sense since I’m over here….j/k of course haha. Idk, I seriously think all the good girls are either in CA or NY. What part of CA are you from? I recently went to San Diego (twice!) and I’m planning on going to San Fransisco later this summer.
Whoa really? Someone is awfully confident haha. But I am from Orange County and the Asians here are pretty fobby. I was raised on the East Coast most of my life so I am used to being around Americanized Asians. I can see why a lot of guys like California girls though—they are pretty good-looking. Guys over there are more career-oriented though, in my opinion.
@buiptammy - Haha I’m totally kidding, I’m just okay =P. Interesting take on things; I never thought about it that way. What made you move out to the West Coast?
I was looking for your message button but couldn’t find it. Anyways, I moved here for school. But yeah things are completely different through a chick’s perspective. I am hoping to move back to VA/D.C. in the future.
@buiptammy - Well if you ever do move back to this area you should let me know. p.s. the message button is right next to our screennames on these comments
Oh damn. I am pretty blind haha. But definitely.
This is an awesome list. Your numbers 1, 2 and 3 would deff be on my list too! =)
@Peridot21 - Awesome, great minds think alike!
@Roadlesstaken - omg that’s what i always say! lol
i LOVE love. meh, it hurts a wee bit too much when i get guys like you, though….you’re too sweet for your own good. haha i guess i don’t really mean that in a bad way…just saying. the girl that gets you will be a lucky lucky girl!!
I relate!
@shatterFocus - Do you know the whereabouts of any of those lucky girls? If so, please direct them to me so I can get a chance to be a lucky guy. Stupid mojo, where art thou??
@Roadlesstaken - you can blame it on the mojo all you want…but maybe now’s just not the time
Hm, I complain about my singleness alot. Â Really, I don’t mind being single though I occasionally pine for some of the things you talked about. Â At least you’re patient.Â
I miss being wanted.
Aw, Alex! One day you shall find her. The One. And you will then miss being single. JK.
This was one awesome post, it deserves to be featured. No wonder girls have you as their XC. <3
@shatterFocus - I think I’ve been saying that as my way of coping. But man, it’s been 2 years since my last serious relationship. I think I’m ready now love gods haha.
haha. This is cute, Alex
@ccarothers - I don’t mind it too much either. It’s good to be doing my own thing and discovering myself over the single years. However, I think I’m ready to move on from this stage
@niikhita - Yeah, the feeling of someone else wanting you and you wanting them back is quite lovely.@ohsodainty - Thank you. Haha where are all these suppose girls with XC on me? They should come visit Maryland. Like, now.@Kontzicles - Thanks Amanda. I love how this post is getting attention all of the sudden, 7 months after I wrote it.
THat was really familiar, did you time stamp? It is perfectly OKay that you did, just want to be sure that my memory is not failing me as bad as I think it has been…..anyway, nice post and you are right. If I were single again, and now single comes with a couple added attachments, I would not know how to act!!!
@kidzandK9z - Nopers, I never timestamp . The date this entry was published is still back in 11/10/2008 . It’s probably familiar because it was featured a long long time ago. People are just all of a sudden reccing it, I think because Peridot21 mentioned it in her post about me.
@Roadlesstaken - I knew that i had seen it somewhere, of course it was featured..and for a good reason!
This was a cute post and I have been single for quite a while now and I most certainly miss these things sometimes.
@TheRiverIsEverywhere - Yeah, I mean being single isn’t THAT bad…but I sure miss a lot of the things I was used to getting. Ah well, I’ll be patient.
OMG Alex..I feel the exact way you do.. well, I just had a fresh break-up with my boyfriend, and true enough, you’ll never realize some things until they’re gone. most of us have these regrets and hopes in a relationship, I’m not sure if I’m supposed to be happy or sad, because it’s through all of these challenges and hardships we go through that molds us to become better partner right? which made me think it’s worth if it’s not gonna be for the one that you love anymore..haha I’m getting emotional right now. But yeah, we always learn from mistakes and at least we have that urge to become better the next time we get in a relationship again Finally, the number one thing I miss the most:1. Simply, the feeling of falling in love.ouch.
@bloomblog - Aw I’m sorry to hear. Over time the pain of breaking up with him will fade away. I’m much better now and I’m content being single. Finding someone special though would be pretty nice however.
nice.
Awww this was adorable. For me the best things about being in a relationship are having someone to talk to about anything and feeling loved.
While I do have a crush on both Jason Segel and Neil Patrick Harris, I am definitely more attracted to Marshal’s character.
@SimplyNita - yeah, having someone there, especially during rough times, is very nice to have
@Ampersands_Anonymous - haha really? What about him do you like the most?
I know what you mean man… But sometimes being single has it’s perks also.. Like.. Umm… Like.. Ummmmmm… Well, I can’t think of any right now.. but you know what I mean…. Don’t worry, the best comes to those who have hurt, but still has the odacity to continue on trying..
@Roadlesstaken - His sense of humor for starters. One of my favorite Marshal moments is when the guys are following Britney Spears and the guys are at the bar and he says something like, “I’m so nervous. What do I do with my hands? What do I normally do with my hands?” FLOORED me! Another endearing quality is his commitment to his commitments. That might sound redundant but I love how devoted he is to Lily, his friends, his job, AND his values. His character is my dream man.
I’ve never been in a relationship, so I wouldn’t know, nor do I have anything to miss.
@hardlyhandsomest - One of my favorite perks of being single = having all this extra money around that I otherwise would have spent with the girl haha@Ampersands_Anonymous - I think it’s his commitment to those he cares about is an amazing trait to have. I try to emulate that as much as possible@mathematicalbagpiper - haha, that can be a good thing
i like your list.I also miss the parts that make my head spin for no reason, like when he looks at me, puts his arm around me…and without him, I don’t have a best friend.
@Roadlesstaken - Oh yeah, but you have to admit, it’s better to have someone to spend the money on, than to have no-one to spend for.. I know you save alot of money… but what’s the money save for if there’s no-one to spend it on in the first place, right?
great post
All I’ve gotta say about love… is all of the above.
“it would feel like cheating on xanga whenever i am with her…”
@maniacsicko - That’s your top reason eh?@bundleoflisa - Oh love, why is it such a big factor in our lives…
@quietmeteorshowers - thanks!@HisKeiki - Having a lover also being your best friend was very nice. I won’t take that for granted in the future
Well I am now reading this due to your most recent post….and #5, I realized how important this was once I began college and my boyfriend was back at home. All of a sudden I had to go out of my way just to find someone to eat with and it got so stressful sometimes I just decided eating alone was easier. =|And going out..everytime I go somewhere, I just want him there. Bah!
@TheKiwiIntoxication - ah yes, very convenient for sure. On the flip side, I’ve learned to be more independent now so it doesn’t bother me as much nowadays
i had no idea korkor was cantonese! ive been calling my brother that all my life and i just figured it was a singaporean thing.
@queenofstyrofoamhearts - Ah, well now you know! =)
A lot of those 5 things I get from my best friends, so I’m not even sure what I consider to be something I get only from a relationship. *shrugs*
&& I thought I had lost hope of any sentimental guy to ever walk upon this earth. I have so much respect for you now in all aspects. I don’t know, I’m beginning to feel like you’re that perfect ideal guy for every girl out there. So I suppose whoever snags you better realize what they’ve got and how lucky they to have you and never let go.
@Princess_Lynda - Thank you for thinking so . Ah, if only more girls think the way you do.
@Roadlesstaken - You mean they don’t!? Then every girl you’ve come across are freaking crazy, maybe they have no real thought process. Maybe they’re being controlled by an evil robot or something.But then again, I guess I’ve only seen one side of your personality through your blogs, which is quite sweet, intelligent, utterly romantic, active, creative, and very, very funny. Maybe you’re crazy when you’re mean!I don’t know, all I know is I would feel like the luckiest girl in the world if I ever came across a guy that thinks like you, just pretty much whole the mind set. I guess its because some of it is pretty similar to mine, but then there are a lot of things that are different which give it a little spice. I haven’t had the best pick in guys…But don’t think I’m like remeniscing about your amazing personality, because I am totally not creepy like that! ><”
@Princess_Lynda - Yup, you got me. I’m evil in real life hehe. Nah, I think I’ve run into some weird roadblock right now where all the good girls are either taken or too far away. It’s weird, since I was in back to back relationships for a few years and then the couple of years afterward I’ve hit some dry spell. It’s part of the reason why I kinda want to move out somewhere else.
Haha, well since you’ve admit it I’m pretty scared. What are you hiding? I think every person in this world has another person thats meant for them. I don’t know I guess I’m into the whole soulmates kind of thing, and going through periods of different relationships molds yourself to see your ideal person. And when you find them is probably the most amazing and beautiful thing. Thats what I think when I see my brother and his wife at least. They have something so beautiful…. aghh…. I tend to remenisce when I think about their relationship.Baha. I think I need a roadblock right now, relationships are stressful when you don’t pick the right person. I’m beginning to feel the same way as you do. It seems like every guy in my general area…are just so…I don’t know they’re users. I hate it. I wish I could move, my schooling makes it hard. && I put my parents before myself in all cases, I couldn’t leave them right now even if I wanted to or even if they actually supported me in doing so. They need my help at the restaurant, i want to hurry and get my degree out of the way so i can help my dad pay off some of his debts, maybe he’ll sell the restaurant and retire. Thats a dream I’m waiting to come true.Maybe you should move to Missouri, its uhh soo country! Haha ><”No you’d regret it, although the st.louis metro area can get pretty fun, and even better when you’re over 21. I want to live somewhere close to a beach. I’ve always wanted to live in California, but I don’t know if I could just pack up and leave my family :/But also maybe its a good thing you’ve come to a stop in your life when it comes to women, you can discover a lot of different things about yourself that may have changed through out the years.I wish you the best of luck with the futur women you ever get involved with though, I’m pretty sure there will be someone who can appreciate your unique qualities. Because you come in like the perfect package, you’re very rare to come by…so they wouldn’t even be considered human to pass up a chance with you. Remember that
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@Princess_Lynda - Haha, nah in all honestly I think I’m a decent human being. No axe murderer here!For me, I like to think there are many “one”s out there for us, and it just depends on timing and luck who we end up with.Oh, and trust me I definitely understand the value of being alone like this for a while. I’ve learned more about myself than I did before, so that’s a great plus. I’m…content being single, but I certainly feel ready to find someone again.
@Roadlesstaken - Thats what the all the crazy people say! Bahaha..I like your perspective on the people who we would consider our “one”s. Interesting… Keeps me thinking…thats what I like about you, you make me think.
Well I hope you find that someone, I really do think you deserve it. Just remember to never settle for less. You seem like a really selfless person, so you should find that person that can really fill that spot in your life to the complete fullest. *huggles* If that even makes sense….I dont know its 5 am insomnia wont go away and I’m so tired ><”
almost two years later, do you still feel the same way? lol
@rxglasshalffull - Pretty much =)
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