Dec 1^st (First day on front page)

Dec 4^th (Few days later)

*Looks at view count* !!!!!!

That.  Is.  Ridiculous.

Seriously, thank you for the amazing comments you all have given me over the past couple of days.  I’ve been overwhelmed with a lot of new subscribers and friend requests ever since I was featured and I’ll slowly but surely tend to that.  If I keep seeing you pop up on my blog, I’ll probably friend you back sooner rather than later, just because it will remind me to go deal with that.

I never thought I would get so much attention from that one silly post.  Don’t worry, the added attention won’t go to my head.  Trust me, my head is pretty huge already (physically I mean; runs in the family ) so it really doesn’t need to get any bigger. 

Alright, so I told myself that I wasn’t going to write another relationship-related entry for a while.  If any of you have read some of my other posts, you would see I write about a variety of things involving pop culture, my life, etc.  However, something s0rair0 wrote to me about the other day got me really starting to think.  In her comment, she said she couldn’t understand why I’m single.  I thought about it for a while, and in response I told her I had a theory as to why that was the case.

Nooooo, it’s not because I’m secretly a very smelly, hairy, toothless old racist man posing as a 22 year old Asian guy from Maryland (in case some of you were wondering that =P).  No, my theory involves several factors, some that are within my control but most that aren’t.  My theory isn’t exactly an excuse, rather just my own personal way of rationalizing to myself what are the factors making me stay put in my current relationship status. 

I’m tentatively naming it my (Im)Perfect Storm Theory.  Why that name?  Well, when I woke up this morning and turned on the TV, The Perfect Storm happened to be playing.  Thus, I’m just going to borrow that title for my theory for now .

My (Im)Perfect Storm Theory

My theory consists of the following six factors that I personally believe has the biggest effects:

1.  Bad Timing

2.  Distance

3.  Being Busy

4.  Social Circles

5.  Standards

6.  Friend Effect

1.  Bad Timing

By bad timing, I mean it seems like every girl that I would have liked or would have liked me all of a sudden got into relationships right when I got out of one.  Not just any relationships, but freakin’ long term ones that are still going on today.  It’s as if there is a relationship equilibrium that balances out the world and once I got out of a relationship, it felt like the world needed to self-correct itself.

You might think I’m exaggerating, but I’m serious.  Off the top of my head, I can think of at least four girls that were single during the time I was in a relationship that I could possibly see myself being with.  When I became single, POOF!  Each and every one of them found their special someone within months.

I felt I had gotten lucky when I discovered there was still this one girl (we’ll call her Apple) that was somehow not taken.  “Yes!  So the relationship gods miss one!” I thought.  Well, at the time I thought Apple wasn’t over her last ex yet and I didn’t want to rush her into anything.  I was really liking her for several reasons (i.e. her spunkiness, sense of humor) and I didn’t want to end up as just a rebound guy.  Unfortunately for me, that hesitation allowed one of her other guy friends to come in and ask her out about a week after I decided I wouldn’t ask her out just yet.  They’re still together to this day.  Just my luck huh? 

Lesson:  If you wait too long for the right moment, that moment will pass you by.  Consider lesson learned.

2.  Distance

 I wish I had the ability to teleport.  That way, distance wouldn’t cock-block me so, so, so many times.  I don’t know how it happened, but it was as if all the other potential girls I liked (that weren’t in a relationship already) all migrated out of Maryland.  Usually, it was because they had to move or they had to go to an out-of-state college.

This factor was the one that kicked my balls in my last relationship.  We were doing just peachy and were still in the process of getting close, but than she was forced to transfer to another school 4 hours away.  We attempted a long distance relationship but it just wasn’t working out, so we had to call it quits. 

There’s this other girl I’ve met recently who’s a friend of a friend.  During the few times we hung out I thought she was really cute and has such an optimistic personality.  I couldn’t help but feel good around her each time.  Unfortunately, she’s only here in MD every break or so before she has to go back to a college several states away. 

Then there was yet another girl (a long time friend) that finally told me she liked me after all these years.  Ah but once again, the relationship gods had her deported elsewhere (many, many states away), too far away to have any real relationship.  Thus, here I am at square one.

Basically, distance has spank my butt several times -_- .  Oh why distance, why?!  *Shake fists*

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(The above break was for you, tweeny_tear )

I think this post will be way too long if I talked about the rest of the factors, so I’ll finish up talking about the other four factors next time I post. 

I find my situation more or less pretty funny, so don’t feel too bad for me (unless you already don’t feel bad, in which case continue on ).  I keep imagining myself in a sitcom where the premise is where one or all of these factors find a way to mess me up in progressively hilarious ways.  Too bad life isn’t like a sitcom where things get resolved with a happy ending in a half hour =P.

Since I’ve gotten quite a few new visitors checking out my silly little blog, I decided that I should write up a post to tell you guys a little about myself and how I use Xanga.

I’m going to guess most of my recent subscribers found out about my page through either A) Datingish, B) my Twilight review post or C) my recent relationship post .  Were there any other ways you found out about my site?  Apparently me being featured on the home page has also garnered a lot of uh, additional attention.

Brief history.  I left Livejournal and started writing in Xanga around 2003.  The main purpose of my page was just to write down thoughts as I go about my simple life.  I always thought that it would be interesting to read my old posts in the future and see how much I’ve change and grown up.  Before this year, I had merely a few friends on Xanga, and they were all pretty much people I knew in real life. 

I was fine with that, and as much as I appreciate the increase of readers I would still be happy if I just have as many readers as I did before.  I still write about generally the same things:  things that go on in my daily life, my thoughts, my dreams, funny musings, random reviews, picture blogs, etc.  If people like what I write, then good!  If not, no biggie.  The main big thing that increased readers have done for my site is that it has given me more reason to update regularly.  In the past, I would just write whenever, usually not more than once a week.  I’m now trying to update every 2-3 days or so.

Recently, I’ve began noticing a lot of my habits and general feelings with certain aspects about Xanga:

Comments/eProps.  Like I mentioned before, I write for myself so comments aren’t as big of a deal for me.  For the longest time, I was used to getting maybe one comment per post I made and was perfectly happy with that.  That being said, I do feel good when I get a lot of comments, but I’m not going to fret if I don’t get 39534321 comments on each post I make.  I have pretty low standards; as long as I inspire at least one person to leave a comment, I’m fine.

Comments goes both ways.  I typically try to reply to most comments I receive if they’re meaningful and/or open-ended enough.  Of course, it’s kind of hard to reply to shorter comments that just say “I agree!” or something like that, but I still appreciate them all the same. 

I also try to read most (if not all) of my friends/subscriptions, although it’s getting a bit harder to do with my increase amount of Xanga friends/subscriptions (not that I’m complaining…).  If the post I read was good or I have something to comment on, I will comment with something with substance.  I don’t want to just leave one/two word comments because that almost feels like I’m just commenting just to get the other person to comment back, which isn’t my intention.  I’m commenting just because I feel like it.

Recs.  I’ve noticed that I don’t really recommend other posts as often as I see some other people do.  Part of it is because I just forget about that option, but usually the reason is because I don’t want to recommend every post I see or else my recommendations become meaningless.  I found that when I do recommend a post, it means I really enjoyed it and think that it’s relevant for a lot of my Xanga friends to read.

You also will probably not find me asking you to please recommend my post anytime soon.  If you do end up recommending me, then great!  I feel that if people recommend my post without me asking them to, it puts more value in their recommendations.

Timestamps.  I know that other people might have different opinions on this (am I right, Miss BrittMiles27 ? ), but I generally don’t change timestamps once I made an entry.  I’ll admit that I’ve done it in the past, but that’s only if I had changed a significant part of the post. 

Footprints.  I don’t really care for a ton of footprints, but it’s always interesting to see who comes to my site and from where.  I would randomly click on viewers as well, so I don’t mind people visiting my page that I don’t know.

Playlist.  Yep, it autoplays (Not anymore!  Thank you to makethemakersmile for pointing out it autoplays whether or not you scroll down.)  It’s located at the bottom of my page if you want to check it out.  I feel that the music I put in my playlist is a good sample of my music taste.  Some songs I have are there because I dig the beat (i.e. When Did Your Heart Go Missing, I Wanna Love You Girl, Miss Independent) , but many are very love related (i.e. Unbelievable, Chasing Cars, Collide).  Hey, what do you expect from a hopeless romantic? 

P.S. Big kudos to megaxgurls2 for introducing me to Inevitable.  I still can’t stop listening to it!

Pulse.  I’m starting to use this option more and more to talk about spur of the moment things that don’t warrant a whole entry.  This is probably where you will get a lot of glimpses of my daily life happenings, as well as random thoughts.

What I like about being on Xanga.  Honestly, I’m really starting to find myself addicted to Xanga because of all the interesting new people I’m getting a chance to know and read about.  I am a psychology major, so I’m very interested in seeing different people’s perspective on life and how their perspectives relate to mine.

*Note:  Get ready for a storm of random shoutouts coming up.  Don’t say I didn’t warn you.*

It’s so great getting to know people from all over the United States, whether they be from Wisconsin, California, or even if they’re a crazy girl from Texas .  It’s also fun getting to know people from all over the world, such as Canada, Malaysia, and Finland.  I also appreciate getting to know folks from near my area, such as some people who are setting up a DC Xangan meet up.

Xanga has also allowed me the chance to read about such fun things like the random rants of a professional student & home health nurse, one person’s adventure in trying to date Mr. Sushi, a girl that thinks there should be more white girl/Asian guy couples (you exist? ), the musings of a one-eared batman, or simply someone that write fantastic, well written poems and insightful stories.

I’ve even started to know quite few of you to the point that I wouldn’t really call you strangers anymore.  We’ve definitely talked about some personal things that I appreciate you for trusting me with.

Of course, I can’t forget about my real life friends that still update and read my blog.  You know who you guys are.

So there you go!  I hope this entry gives you all a better idea of what type of Xanga person I am.  Feel free to comment and chat with me sometimes new viewers!  It’s always fun getting to know new people.

Question.  I am curious about something that I hope some of you can answer.  What reasons do you have for reading my humble little blog?  Do you find me interesting?  Weird?  Smart?  Dumb?  Funny?  Hot (or not…)?  What about my blog attracts you?