September 19, 2011
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Brush Them Haters Off
In my last post, I talked about how much it sucks when the people you care about and that knows you the best start seeing you differently, in a negative light. While reading some of the feedback, I noticed a few people mistakenly thinking I was referring to random people that may have judged me online or wherever (aka haters). While I may be sensitive to the opinions of my close friends and family, it’s actually very, very easy to ignore the presumptuous pot shots that we all occasionally receive from those that have no idea what they’re talking about.
Sephiroth doesn’t mind, so why should I?Really, if they are going to dismiss you so easily without putting real consideration into what they concluded of you, why should you give what they said any respect? Go ahead and dismiss their words just as coolly. It’s one thing if it’s constructive criticism, but their opinions are ultimately meaningless and a waste of time to dwell on if they stem from ignorance, jealousy, insecurity, apathy, etc.
I admit, I’m not completely innocent. I’ve caught myself taking on the hater role before. It’s quite easy to fall into that trap when you judge people or things based on first impressions, an emotional response, or shoddy information, which I’m sure a lot of us have done for one reason or another. When I reflect on those times, I can’t help recognizing how poorly I approached those situations. My opinions from those moments proved to hold little to no value, as they deserved.
To those that have to deal with unwarranted, careless, hostile remarks directed at you, I say…
…keep strutting along my friend, keep strutting on.WTF clip FTW!
Comments (105)
Ah, I understand.
You’re right, it is easy to do so.
I’ve turned into a hater myself sometimes, and I hate to admit it. Sometimes, things really get under my skin (usually bigoted point of views) and I feel like I have to fight back, fire with fire type battle. Sometimes, I feel that ignoring those comments will actually translate into defeat and give them more reason to continue their asshattery.
YOU have haters?
no way.
i do not believe you.
This has nothing to do with your entry, but your profile pic looks so similar to #cakalusa ‘s ! Lol. I got confused for a sec.
That vid was cute. Glad to see you’re letting the bad stuff roll off you like water off a duck’s back. That’s the way to be!
Relevant
You have haters? What?
I will give you half of mine.
Kinda cold.
Turn on the hater.
Love your haters -they’re your biggest groupies! Hehe… j/k! LOL you’re undeniable cutie and funny! I ‘click’ the video like 20 times already.
NOTE A SERIOUS NOTE: Haters playing on their terms is a no-win situation for you. Your haters will only be happy if you are failing, pleasing them is obviously self-destructive. Naively, many people feel that they can simply avoid or ignore those who mean them harm. In their time of indecision, these people find their plan for haters is no plan at all, which often leaves them wide open to their haters’ attacks. Haters, if you let them, will make themselves at home in your mind, keeping you stuck in self-doubt and far from success. I… hmm… learned from my mistakes.
I’m with everyone else on this…you have haters? Pssh, please.
Unrelated, but, Sephiroth made me giggle, as did the video. =)
fuckin’ Sephiroth….
KEEP ON SWAGGAH-IN’ CHAN-STAH
LOL I love that video. If you want to discourage hating, I think you should walk like that all the time, while listening to that music on your headphones so that you can keep time perfectly.
ps: I was competing with Chris for “most irrelevant comment” award.
I would be inclined to agree if it weren’t for the fact that haters love to pass around a nice tall glass of hateraid. I may not care what the so called haters think, but their actions and deeds can have severe impacts on a persons life. they can destroy relationships, derail careers, and put someone out in the cold socially. been there done that with all 3.
honestly, it’s why i am so skimp on who i accept friend requests from and why i try not to get too close to anyone.. fail miserably at times.. but try.
@nimbusthedragon - Corn on the cob?
@JL789 - that’s exactly what i was thinking too. =)
Haters only means u have more Admirers; Directly proportional relationship ;-p
I so want to do you now… multiple times.
I still can’t grasp the idea that you have haters. it’s like Mother Theresa having haters o_O (sorta).
I rec’ed solely on the exceptional quality of that clip. xD
You think I’m joking. But I’m not.
~V
@Keeko1 - HAHA, Alex as a benevolent old nun…
I try hard not to “hate”. But I can and do get very irritated…
@sonychak - Your comment showed in my feed, like it was to me and I got so confused. You should behave.
@sonychak - YOU CAN’T! HE’S MINE!!!!
Its easy to remember that haters get what they deserve, and not in a good way. Like your little animation, that’s good stuff.
I sent the club a wire stating, PLEASE ACCEPT MY RESIGNATION. I DON’T WANT TO BELONG TO ANY CLUB THAT WILL ACCEPT ME AS A MEMBER. Groucho Marx
The greatest enemy of knowledge is not ignorance, it is the illusion of knowledge. It matters if you just don’t give up. Stephen Hawking
Maybe they’ll get the message! One can hope. Peace
hahaha… nice strutting! I remember an old adage from Stephen Covey – don’t let others control how you react. I thought it was one of the silliest thing I’ve heard until I realized how true it was.
Word!
And my arm cannon and my homie’s Ultima sword and his pet Bahamut Zero is the reason why that fool Sephiroth is runnin like we tha police!
Just know that I think you’re awesome.
@CaKaLusa - FLOWCHART
You should’ve wore a toy soldier outfit while strutting along
I thought you were leader of your asian crew. Shawn and alex are conspiring to take over your dynasty.
Fortune cookie say, ” you will be famous.”
YOU MEAN LIKE THAT ONE TIME WHERE U TOOK MY LUNCH SEAT?! WHAT A DOUCHE NOZZLE
@RulerofMasons - he’s just the figure head..
LOL, The video is a great example of how to handle any bad situation in life, Shake Dem Haters Off
@JL789 - @I_love_Burma - You are definitely not the first person to notice that. Blame Chris for changing back to his old profile pic to confuse people!
@Hinase - For some reason, I sense that you had more to say…but didn’t. Am I right?
@RestlessButterfly - Hmm, so are you saying avoiding or ignoring haters does not work? It’s not a bad strategy for me.
@laytexduckie - I think that’s what they want you to think, but similar to how you deal with trolls you do not want to feed them. Their goal is to get you emotionally charged, and once you are they end up winning. You know what I mean?
@prettykay04 - Maybe not as many as some others, but we all have folks that we don’t see eye to eye. Can’t please everyone!
@Roadlesstaken - Totally understand, which is why I usually don’t answer the internet trolls. In real life, sometimes I stay quiet. Sometimes, I don’t. I usually try not to feed them because the attention is what gets them noticed more and more, and in result, like you said, they’ll win.
@Ampbreia - Haters, one of the easier things to handle in life!
@fLiPgUy31O - VERY relevant
@TheTheologiansCafe - No thanks, you got that taken care of.
@CaKaLusa - I C WUT U DID
@ArmyWife4Life2007 - We all do.
@Roadlesstaken - You are right. How could you tell? Lol
@feyenigma - That’s why I picked that gif. Frickin’ hilarious!
@nimbusthedragon - Idk, your comment was fairly relevant to my post, at least to my gif. So…I guess Chris wins.
@leaflesstree - Who says I don’t already? =)
@iones_island - They can do some damage for sure…if they are let in. If you don’t let them in, they can’t do too much.
@BreannaBerry - perhaps perhaps!
@Roadlesstaken - My haters kinda different from your haters… I guess.
@sonychak - Get in line.
@Keeko1 - Funny enough, I was thinking about referencing her in this post.
@TheMarriedFreshman - Nah, I believe you. That’s a quality video fo sho!
@armnatmom - We can all fall victim to it, but I guess we should at least aim to do it as little as possible.
@Pcygniime - The illusion of knowledge, a great fallacy for many of us.
@ElusiveWords - Good words to go by. *like*
@bluepillorredpill - Haha, I figured you would appreciate my gif choice
@HeLLo_Bianca - I suppose you’re awesome too =)
@suefa_lee - Sadly, I do not have one readily available =(
@RulerofMasons - I’m just a lackey
really you have haters???
Wait who hates on you???? O_o
@Timmmmmmy - I’d do it ALL OVER AGAIN. MUHAHAHAHA
@Jus_Joking - May everyone follow suit in how they deal with the haters!
@nomilktoday - @AmeliaHart - Don’t we all?
@Roadlesstaken - i’d have to disagree entirely. i think i’ve told the story before of a job i had years ago where i was hired with the understanding that i was going into management, had the management training manuals and everything, one of the assistant managers took an instant disliking to me and despite me ignoring her for the most part she managed to stir up enough problems (with constant complaints about everything i did including things that i was told to do) that it came down to “one of you has to go” and she had seniority. it’s true they can’t hurt your feelings if you don’t let them in, but they can make plenty of messes for you by going through other people.
to tie it to your last post, lets say one of these people you care about that seems to be seeing you in a negative light is being egged on by a 3rd party. you may be trying to play it off and be the bigger person or completely unaware of it, but that doesn’t diminish their impact.
@Roadlesstaken - Damn
@Roadlesstaken - “Hmm, so are you saying avoiding or ignoring haters does not work? It’s not a bad strategy for me.”
“They can do some damage for sure…if they are let in. If you don’t let them in, they can’t do too much.” I think you’re talking about something different. it sounds like you’re talking about generic haters, people who are just negative and nasty. it’s an entirely different thing when someone targets you for destruction and will do anything within their power to achieve it. these people for the most part wont go for a direct attack, but they will go behind your back to cause as much drama and trouble as they can.
@iones_island - Ah, I see where you’re coming from. Yeah, I’m referring more to generic haters than the one you’ve had to deal with. With those people, yeah I agree ignoring them won’t be effective.
@Roadlesstaken - i dont think i have any lol
but i guess you are doing something right if people are hatin’
Wait. Who hates you online?
Join the club. People have been hating me for six years, mostly because of shoddy information and lack of apathy. These haters don’t visit my site, so whatever they say about me are utter rubbish and a total waste of their time.
These days I block flamers and trolls and delete all inflammatory comments on my site. I report trolls, always and all the time.
I only know one person who blocked me on here.
I only know one (other) person who thinks I’m a cunt.
Meh, I guess I have enough other things to care about.
This is, however, a beautiful reminder, to those who hafta deal with em haters. Sometimes, it really gets to one, and ends up getting burnt out by the community.
I can be guilty too )= I hate it
@sonychak -
lol!
We can kill them if you want….jussayinbruh…
High five!
What eva, what eva, I do what I want!
lololol
if you got haters, you must be doing something right. keep on struttin!
http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lroowyrDuq1qckgy7.gif — LOL
The best thing about haters is you can learn something about yourself.
I don’t brush haters off. I flag their sites and report them to Xanga Team. Trolls will get their due and I am helping Xanga Team to make their jobs easier.
That’s the best video I have seen all week! ^_^
Don’t really get what people can hate on about you, I swear there’s nothing to hate on. Except yo uglyass face! BWAHAHAHA jk
@Roadlesstaken - Damnnit!!!! *shakes fist* ONE OF THESE DAYS, CHRIS, ONE OF THESE DAYS….
What the HATE?! lol
@mycontinuity - I can’t think of someone right off the top of my head, but I have had some in the past.
@Xcite_Me - @Star_x_Love - Yes, if that’s what you have to do then gotta do it.
@Rainboxx - Yeah, I’ve seen that far too many times. I don’t like it.
@babixling - at least you recognize it, right?
@ThePrince - I’ll be sure to give you a call if I need “extra” assistance.
@Lynn1013 - o/
@prettyuglyjenn - you get a high five too o/
@christianplainandsimple - *strut strut strut*
@Got_Claws - Haha, I need to try calling someone that. You limp noodle! I wonder how they would react.
@imTHEmeowMIXcat - Glad you enjoyed it!
@pika_whoosh - not as ugly as yours, so I’m alright. Zing!
@oxyGENE_08 - I hate you Gene. =)
@Roadlesstaken - I hate you more Alex! =P
someone should teach me how to be a hater, so that i can have more fun on xanga
haha
i was thinking about this the other day, about being bitter and how i catch myself being bitter aka hating. idk, the grass is always greener on the other side as they say… how do you bring yourself down to being humble again?
@maniacsicko - I think what you’re doing is giving you plenty of fun already
@dooE - I guess trying to see things from multiple viewpoints. That helps me.
@Roadlesstaken - yes and I stop once I realize it.
Well said. BTW, Sephiroth doesn’t mind because he’s the ULTIMATE SOLDIER and will cut you in half with his giant sword. If I were Sephiroth, I wouldn’t mind either.
I’ve never seen you acting like a hater. Not once.
@fLiPgUy31O - graters gonna grate! XD it rhymes too, haha.
Hate=really strong word, sometimes too strong.
This post reminds me of a Hilary Duff song!
“Don’t spit on me and shame yourself
because you wish you were someone else
You look so clean but you spread your dirt
as if you think that words don’t hurt…
You’re one of those haters, traitors to the human race,
Haters, what a drag, what a waste
I’d like to see them disappear
they don’t belong anywhere…
feeling angry but you don’t know why
why don’t you look me in the eye?
you want my friends, you want my clothes…
Haters..different life forms, different species,
broken promises and treaties
talkin’ ’bout exterminating, not the haters..
just the hating..”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vLqPDEowJ-s
Good point, well put.
It’s no one else but your choice how you end up feeling no matter what is thrown at you.
And as you said usually it lack of info or a miss-assumption anyway.
Glad there are nice level headed sensible people like you still left out there Alex
@arenadi - You…make a great point there haha
@DivaJyoti - Hopefully you won’t see that happen in the future!
@wyrdkismet - Did you just relate me to Hilary Duff? =O
@BFB1131 - miss-assumptions, is that a word?
OMG OMG OMG. <3 the video. LOL
@Roadlesstaken - Shrugging off haters won’t make them go away. You need to stand up and defend yourself. When several Xangans including your BFF Flip made fun of me and my Malaysian friends, I made a strong stance against it.
When people made trolling blogs against Malaysians and other Xangans, we Malaysians stand united and fight back. We made a series of reports to Xanga Team about these trollings while you and your friends make endless videos of cheery meet ups and stupid contents.
We Malaysians tried hard to make Xanga troll free but you are too busy having fun with meet ups to make a single PSA/anti-trolling video. We Malaysians did the dirty job to help to make Xanga a better place while you and your buddies shrugged and do nothing about trolling. Some kind of Xanga ‘ambassador’ you all are.
Shrugging off haters is like turning a blind eye to hate and ignorance in your own backyard.
If you want to stop the hate, then make a PSA video about cyberbullying and anti-trolling. Help to spread the love around, remind people that cyberbullying and trolling are not welcome in Xanga.
You are a representative of Xanga, you are in the Xanga book. People will listen to you, but not us Malaysians who are too silly and stupid in eyes of your own friends.
@Roadlesstaken - It’s certainly word-like
Mr.Dictionary hehe
@Xbeautifully_broken_downX - Thanks!
@Star_x_Love - I’ll consider it.
@BFB1131 - Alright, I suppose I can give you partial credit then.
@Roadlesstaken - Tung!
taio cruz then, haha
hehe some peeps are just jokin’ though. a little jesting and frolicking with a knife in one’s hand here or there never hurt anyone. teasing is fun!!
@CaKaLusa - oh you need a heater? takes of clothes and hops into cakalusa’s bed. I’m waitiiiiiing!!
@dirty_sweater - Indeed, a little teasing here and there amongst friends is a-okay with me!
@dirty_sweater - what in the world? IT’S A TRAP!
I love the .GIF! I used to play FF7 a long long time ago.
@steaaak - me too. One of my favorite games ever!
I can’t believe I stared at Sephiroth for a good 2 whole minutes and didn’t even notice! It’s mesmerizing… somewhat.
@AzureRecollections - Wait, didn’t notice what exactly? That he was Sephiroth?
hahah funny video
@discover_hienie - Thank ya!
I need to perfect that stroll
@tsh44 - It’s not too hard
interesting video. lols
Yeah, brush those haters off! It sure is a waste of time giving two **** about them.
@H0Eass - Strut on, friend!
jesus christ, who’s the bastard graphic artist that decided to make sephiroth a skipping nancy?
@figachewy - idk…but I find it hilarious.
that video made my day and i agree with you on your post
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