February 6, 2011
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Is the Spirited Romance Still in Me?
Let me tell you a quick story that not too many people know. A few years ago, I wanted to get back with somebody after mistakenly breaking it off with her. I was trying to think of ways I could possibly persuade her to come back to me. In the end, I genuinely thought it would be a good idea to do something from a certain movie we both enjoyed watching together. In particular, it was this memorable scene from Love Actually that I found myself reenacting:
Yeah yeah I know, I was THAT guyI didn’t do it halfway either. I bought a bunch of big colored paper and wrote out around 30 cards worth of messages and pictures on them. I even took it a step further and timed it to this song, making sure I ended my cards right when the song ended:
She did get back with me soon after this grand gesture, which was great, but that’s not what I want to talk about here. What I want to do is understand how I managed to go through with all this. When I look back at this memory, my first thoughts revolve around how ridiculous it was to do something so outlandish. What was I thinking? Did I really have to go all sappy/cheesy like that?
After thinking about it some more though, I began seeing my old self from a different perspective. I still thought I went overboard with the spectacle (there is such thing as too much), but I had to admit I had guts. It was a highly embarrassing thing to do, especially if it went wrong, but I apparently didn’t care how people might see it. I had these strong feelings for her damn it, and I was going to express them one way or another!
I take a look at who I am now and wonder if I could put myself out there the way I used to be able to. It bothers me that I hesitate to this thought. I’m afraid that I might have grown more doubtful and cynical due to some recent experiences, which in turn is preventing me from being as ambitious and carefree with my expressions as I was back then. Don’t get me wrong; I think it’s a good thing I’ve toned down in that department and I’m not as romance crazy, but I really don’t want to lose that side of me completely. I like having that quality, as foolish as it may make me appear.
Who knows, perhaps I shouldn’t worry too much. Maybe I’ve just grown out of practice and this part of me will come alive again when the moment is right. Looks like we’ll just have to wait and see if I get inspired in the near future.
Alright, no more pondering from me. Have a happy Sunday everyone.
Comments (154)
I think lots of people were more sappy/cheesy/gutsy back in the day. Heck, I was for sure. I’m still sappy/cheesy/gutsy at times, but ehhhhh… you know my stories.
By the way, you’re still very sappy/cheesy. It just sucks that you’re lactose intolerant now.
Hey, do what you have to. I believe in really going after what you want. Set pride aside. Be honest and true to yourself even if you look like a goddamn fool in the process. In the end, it’s you who has to go to sleep, right? You don’t want to go to bed knowing you could have tried harder and what not. You got guts. And I commend that. I think you might just still have it in ya. We’ll see.
I used to feel very similar, with a romance that needed to pour out of me. Sometimes I feel similar to you now, like I am incapable of having those feelings again.
I’m sure it’s still in you and me both though
, you just haven’t met the next girl capable of giving you those kinds of feelings yet. I am 100% sure that when you meet her, those feelings will come rushing back and she’ll be the second luckiest girl in the world. Luckiest being my future girl ofc ;P.
I think it’s still there, you are just out of practice.
But awww….I would appreciate something like that, but I would die laughing while it was going on, but I would thoroughly enjoy it. xD
I remember you telling Michelle and me about this when you were here. You should do it again next time… but play “Low” by Flo Rida. Crap you would win Flip over with that.
I think you still have it in you, but the reason why you probably can’t see yourself doing it now is because you’re not in any situation that would require for you to. When the time calls for you to be sappy/cheesy then I’m sure your creative side will come out!
You were probably more hormonally driven back then ahahah. I’m not saying u don’t have the guts now, but reason comes more into play.
I think what you did was SOOOOOOOOO SWEET!
I think that part of you is still in you and when you are in love it will resurface. I see you as the kind of man who will do sweet, thoughtful, cute, creative things for the one he loves.
HUGS!
You are growing old, face it.
Awww! Thats really cute! You’re probably out of practice or maybe the moment for something like that hasn’t come up yet. If theres something that you’re passionate about I’m sure you’ll put yourself out there for it.
@fLiPgUy31O - Indeed, the lactose intolerance issue makes it even more painful to be cheesy. I must really think it’s worth the pain!
@Southeast_Beauty - I had guts at least haha, not sure now. I guess I’m just waiting for someone to come alone that I think will be worth sticking my neck out again.
@pika_whoosh - Oh, of course! I’m honored to have the second luckiest girl in the future.
@ALovingAdversary - She was laughing too, but I guess it was the good kind!
@sonychak - Do you think so, really? That’s all the encouragement I need!
when the moment is right it’ll come out again
You had a reason to be that sappy before (get back with the girl), you’re not in the same mentality now.
Try not to let yourself become jaded
@suefa_lee - Yeah, I’m just wondering now if I was put in that situation again how much would I be willing to go all out again? Hmm.
@suuperstar - Oh, those hormones…yup, they might have played some factor.
@adamswomanlost - Let’s see if I still can be like that in the future!
@LoBornlytesThoughtPalace - I know I am. My bones are aching!
@Mizlilaznduckie - I need to find that passion once more. It has been too long.
@Roadlesstaken - Always good to make a girl laugh.
luv always makes us abandon all logic and do crazy things…aahh such suckers we are
I bet she will always treasure that memory, Alex. A lot of people hesitate when it comes to love now, but I’m sure when you find the right person, it’ll all work out, right? I think when you find the right person, it’ll be easy to be super sappy. I mean, when you touch it, feel it, and hold it, you’ll know it’s love.
P.S. I love this song. I used to always listen to it. Happy Sunday, Alex. Miss you.
As long as you get gutsy and inspired with the right person, that’s all that matters! Everything else is practice in between. =)
Oh trust, when she does and you’re sooo into her. You’ll be a fool all over again.
I used the term “fool” lightly, btw.
that’s a pretty song; i like it
@RonnyV - Urgh love, so illogical!
@Yohkom - Trying. I really don’t want to become that bad.
@TwinkleSprinkles - You’re right, it is just practice for the main event. Huzzah!
@HelloKitty0809 - Where did you first hear that song? I’m glad I found out about it.
@The_ButterflyQueen - Snow Patrol sure knows how to write about love.
girls loveee sappy/cheesy.
i just hate that guys think that nice guys finish last. i’m wondering where did all the nice guys go haha
lol, your life is a romantic comedy.
I think there’s nothing wrong with being sappy/cheesy or whatever. I think in that situation also, you’re at a disadvantage since you’re asking for her back after being the one to initiate the separation, so a big gesture is necessary if you want to have a chance at getting back together. Like everyone else said, it has to be the right girl. I never really believed that a guy would be that sweet, but my ex did some pretty insane things for me that he never did for anyone else. It’ll work out when you find the right girl to challenge all the bad experiences you’ve had.
What you did for that young lady once was so incredibly sweet that, no matter what, and when the time is right, you’ll have it in you to do something just as special for that one lucky girl.
And I just realized that things like that do happen in real life. Mind=blown.
thats so cornyyyy lol i wouldnt know anyone that would do that
aww, what a sweet story! Girls love these kinda sappy/mushy/cheesy stuff! Don’t worry, when you find the right girl, you’ll become more cheesier than ever! haha
It probably means…you’re getting old! I’d say the sappy/cheesyness is basically the innocence of youth.
I was such a closet romantic for a long time then bad relationships killed that part of me for awhile there but I think when you meet the right person that part of you will come out again you just have to be patient. Btw have to say it’s amazing that you did that for her it’s something she’ll remember for a long time things like that aren’t forgotten easily and it just shows what you’re are capable of when it’s the right person.
*sigh* I feel that way too now. But like you said, just wait til the moment is right.
@banZaii_itZ_keIk0o - Oh they’re all around if you look =)
@nepenthium - If that’s true, I must be in the slow/nothing chapter haha
@vicdaily - Those romcoms sure can influence us guys at times!
Well, if you think about it, ever listened to some stories about how guys proposed marriages? The spontaneity is not a bad thing at all. I remember watching a video of a friend of mine who went to a hospital his girlfriend worked at dressed up as Santa. He gave presents here and there, and gave his girlfriend a ring.
Smooth move if you ask me.
There’s a Chinese saying that age brings the guts away. Maybe that’s very true afterall because I feel the same way too. But my logic is because as you age, the things happened around you makes you don’t wanna go all out to be doing all these stuffs anymore.
@nov_way - Yup, those movies aren’t all lies haha.
@nomilktoday - I’m known to be very corny like that. There’s many other stories i could tell. Aiya
@miss_dizzao - Oh geez. Well, at least that will make for a good story to tell later!
@Keeko1 - Wehh, I am getting old! Oh noes!
@shuang_zhaohui - I wonder if she still has those cards which I gave to her afterward.
@HeLLo_Bianca - We need to help you get over that fella!
@Bodhiseeker - I used to think I would be one of those guys in the future. Now, I think a more low key proposal would be just fine haha.
@Candilicious_Meanie - Hmm interesting. I hope that’s not all true, but I can believe that as we get older those types of gestures happen less often as you get comfortable with the usual.
I love cheesy and big romantic gestures!
I think it will come out again when the right woman comes along. And I actually like what you did.. I thought it was more sweet, than cheesy.
I’m sure that when you meet that special someone, you’ll regain that romance awesomeness again
Awww Snow Patrol is a charmer
Well unless you still have feelings for this girl, I’m not surprised you think you went too far. But in the moment, don’t you think it was worth it?
@LillyVRose - =) well I’m glad you think that!
@five_twenty - You would have really enjoyed the younger me then!
@Cestovatelka - If that happens I’m sure I’ll blog about it eventually haha
@justbeein - Even now I think it was worth it. I can’t believe I convinced myself to do it though haha.
If I was the girl, I’d definitely be impressed.
Not many guys have the guts to do all that stuff in public! Props to you for being able to do so.
@elvish_fairy - I technically did it where noone else was around haha, but thanks.
I feel like..as we grow older, we’re not as bold as we once were when younger )=
Maybe because we’ve learned what the consequences might be and therefore consider every action we take.
Aww that’s so cute, but I have to admit it was slightly too cheesy/sappy. haha! I guess this is one of those things that are not considered cheesy when it’s used in a movie? But there’s nothing wrong with being cheesy! I’d pick that over being serious because it’s fun to laugh and be happy.
I think it’s still in you too. (but…maybe not the guts anymore?) haha Hope you meet someone who’ll make you do all these cheesy/sappy things again!
I guaran-damn-tee you if you go back into my blog 4 years you will see how easy it was for me to be cheesey. You never really loose it, you just become more tactful. This generally happens because the older you get, the more mature you significant other will be, generally. when I was 16, the thought of a guy doing all those cheesey things was incredibily romantic, now, I find some of the things creepy. lol
kinda what my post was about too. not so much the grand gesture thing, but hesitating to open up in general.
@ionekoa - I’m gonna go read your post very soon!
@wolvenchic - More tactful! I think that’s what I wanted to say about me too right now. That is a good perspective your comment just gave me.
@dUhGrL - Indeed, certain acts should stay in the movies and not used in real life haha. I’m lucky this act worked alright.
@babixling - I do feel more cautious nowadays. That can be a good thing or bad thing.
“I’m afraid that I might have grown more doubtful and cynical due to some recent experiences, which in turn is preventing me from being as ambitious and carefree with my expressions as I was back then.”
what happened? anyone pissed you off? ill kick her ass =PPP
I hope I can find a guy I can be a stupid fool for. Wait…
No seriously I wouldn’t mind : P You’re such a nice bf! Except you can’t use this move anymore cause you revealed all your secrets on xanga lol
@kaiori - Trust me, that move right there is retired in my books!
@rxglasshalffull - haha, well let’s just say my past romantic efforts have not yielded the expected outcomes.
Awww. I know the feeling a little too well. I use to be this crazy, loud, girl. I use to be able to walk to a person, and talk to them without any shyness or obligations. Now, I can’t do that anymore. I miss that freespirited person in me. I thought I lost it for sure, after some crazy things happened in my life. Instead, I’ve slowly learned it’s still in me. It only comes out at rare times, but it’s till in there. When you need that part of you, it will come out. It’s like when you that need cute, romancey person in you to come out and do something for a girl, it will come out.
Slappy cheesy romantic…nothing wrong with that.
@Roadlesstaken - it’s okay, we all know how chick flicks end
You’ll find your princess when you least expect it!
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww you are way too awesome! I don’t think we ever should let that part of us die. I’m a romantic though. I think that it should always be true and timed appropriately, but if we don’t put ourselves out there sometimes we loose that child within us. If you’ve ever been around children its incredible how deeply the love, hurt, trust and care. Let your freak flag fly I always say.
“Shoot for the moon, even if you miss you will land amongst the stars.”
That is seriously just…gah. So cute. I’m sure it will come back to you when you meet the right person.
Oh HayYy Sum raNdom propZ.
Guts/courage > cheesy
That is so cute, it made me go “awwww.” I think as we go through more and more relationships/loves, we are less likely to fall in love as easily as it was in the beginning. We learn to protect ourselves and look at someone deeper before we make that crazy jump into love. Therefore I believe you’re hesitant to make those grand gestures not because you’re losing your romantic side, but because you haven’t found someone that makes you feel the same way you did about the girl. It probably has less to do with the girls you have been seeing, but more with your heart maturing. It is a bit more difficult to fall or feel those flutters, not impossible.
Stay foolish! (to an extent)
i really love your song!
@throughsamseyes - Haha aren’t you still 18? You’re not as old as me yet to be not free spirited!
@oxyGENE_08 - Too much can be bad!
@nepenthium - Find me a meet-cute situation to be in!
@Sophannieta - Oh yeah! Now, where did I put that freak flag. I know it’s somewhere around here…
@BingleBot - so sappy cute right? Ah, I can’t make fun of it too much. That truly was like me to do stuff like that back then. None of my close friends would be surprised haha
@CaKaLusa - tHx FoR sHoWiNg My PaGe SuM lUv~~~~
@eRicSpellsRice - truth
@litt0_h0nii - I really like your comment. I think you’re on to something. Thank you! And yes, Snow Patrol is awesome.
@Roadlesstaken - Hahaha sappy cute can be a good thing. =)
you are brave romantic person, hehe.
There’s nothing I can say that somebody else hasn’t already said. Haha. Love and romance is just one of those things that makes you vulnerable and makes you act silly sometimes. I was SOOOO vulnerable with my ex-boyfriend of over five years, but I really don’t regret it. It’s part of the fun!
Really, what’s life without that type of experience?
@oOo_itsJuJu - Ah vulnerable. That’s another word I should have used while writing this. I wonder when’s the next time I can completely open up like that again?
@stevew918 - and a fool haha
@Roadlesstaken - You and me both, my friend. It’s such an awkward yet blissful feeling. Lol. Maybe we’re just a couple of love-sick hopeless romantics.
I love how sweet you were
But yes, strike a balance being sappy and being just sweet enough 
I wrote love letters to guys before without caring about the outcome..
….I think as we get older we look at situations with more consideration. Concern for pros, cons and outcome would weigh more versus putting self-expression as priority. Now if you meet someone who brings out your passionate side, you might show your care in ways not as grandeur as your old self but they might just be grandeur in the girl’s heart.
That’s completely understandable especially after bad experiences. We don’t wanna put ourselves out there in fear of hurt and of rejection. I think, the thing to remember is that no matter how bad it hurts, you can’t let a few experiences ruin your chances at happiness. Take a risk. I’ve done that myself and sometimes it doesn’t pay off. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there even if all you get at rejection and heartache. And a lot of the girls I know love the cheesiness =D
Don’t be afraid to be yourself!
@addyorable - Yeah, I think I’m better able to find that balance nowadays =)
@Shades_of_Athena - I’m so glad to hear so many other people feel more cautious as they get older regarding these types of actions. Wooo!
@Hinase - Must. Find. Good. Girl.
That’s so sweeeeet
@Roadlesstaken - They are out there, it’s just the chance and circumstance of finding one. And it’s always good to look underneath your nose because people closest to you can surprise you. Don’t ignore your feelings either. Yeah, my bf was my best friend before, so listen to yourself and pay attention and don’t be afraid to put yourself out there =D
I think its great you put yourself out there. But I guess if you did it all the time, how would the other person know it was extra special when you did? I’m a big believer in the right moments, so I’m sure it’ll come out when the time is right. Who knows, this time you might do a Bon Jovi video move: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eb1oFIqBVzA (if you haven’t seen it)
That’s pretty admirable…I don’t think I’d be able to do something like that :/
Happy Sunday. And that’s cute. I’m sure when the right person comes along you’ll reemerge as that romantic sweetheart.
This made me tear up a little bit. ANY man who would do this, seriously deserves a metal. Not very many of YOU left.
And we all go through our stages in life. Perhaps it’s just a passing phase? A momentary double glimpse of insecurity?
Insert “awww” comment. There’s a lot of stuff I did back in the day I probably wouldn’t repeat. Maybe it’s because I’m old and married.
I think when you fall with someone again you will do those things because you care. I dont think that side has left you at all
It’s easy to get jaded about love and putting yourself out there when you have bad experiences. When the right girl comes along, you’ll be ready to do what you need to do to get her.
I see your footprints…STALKER!!! jk. Thanks for dropping by.
It’s always great to meet the person capable to inspire artist in you.
@mandyman27 - Geez, at first I thought you were thinking I’m gonna kill myself! Haha but yeah, I doubt that would be my method for proposal.
@a_drunken_cellist - I can’t believe I did, but hey the spur of the moment can inspire you to do crazy stuff.
@iamthebella - Right person needs to come by, like now.
@MsCaseyLove - I hope it’s just a momentary thing. Thanks for the compliment btw =)
@ItIsAllGravy - yeah, it seems age can play a big factor in how out there romantic we can be. I’ve been hearing that from a lot of others too
@boyhnc - Hope you’re right!
@TheCheshireGrins - I hope you’re right too!
@WondersCafe - Yup yup, just popping my head in!
@Gabor777 - Thanks. Let’s see if I still can do that.
i don’t think there’s anything wrong with the whole romantic/cheesy stuff. but i also think it’s natural that we crystallize into a form of guardedness as we grow older – nothing wrong with that as well unless it’s extremely frigid.
i think that if you commit to keeping at least a little part of that in you, you’ll find that it helps to balance the rigors of getting older. it reminds you that you are indeed capable of loving someone. it’s my hope that you find someone and more importantly, are guided, to someone that appreciates it fully because there’s no greater tragedy than to take that kind of risk on a person that doesn’t appreciate it.
I have to admit…that’s my favorite part of Love Actually
just be glad to know that you have it in you to do just that. i, on the other, am FAR from near that department. it’s a defect of mine, i know. quite a few people have pointed it out. i like the song, by the way. hope you don’t mind if i steal it from you and use it for my benefit. god knows i need all the help i can get.
@ThePrince - Very well stated. I’ll definitely take your advice to heart Prince!
@FrostBit - Nothing wrong with admitting that. It was a pretty cool scene.
@rudyhou - Go for it! That song should be heard by as many people possible.
wow. i think that was incredibly sweet of you.
it really shows how much you want this relationship to work, you put yourself and your heart on the line for everyone to see.
granted, it would have been super embarassing if it doesn’t work out.
it must have took so much courage from you.
i admire that!
There’s a fine line between “romantic” and “creepy.” I found an easy remedy to this by simply not being romantic at all.
@prettykay04 - Putting my heart out seems to be a trend of mine. Not sure if that’s always a good thing haha.
I can’t speak for all women, but I personally don’t know any guys with enough balls to do something like this for someone they truly love. Most guys I know don’t even have the guts to admit they have “feelings” for someone they might have lost, let alone do something so romantic to win them back. It sucks.
I applaud you sir for your honesty and your desire to do something so sweet to show the woman you care about just how much she means to you. Never think of that as a weakness. Weakness is never saying anything at all.
Here’s to hoping that guys like you still exist where I live, and that romance isn’t just completely dead.
If a boii did that tome to get back with me, I would probably say yes too. haha Seems like a lot of blood sweat and tears went into that.
@babybuddy610 - Thank you for your thoughtful comment =) . I do have a hard time holding in my feelings, which isn’t always desirable haha.
@EetMorJello - It was a lot of effort on my part, but I didn’t care. I knew she was somebody that appreciate that aspect of me.
@Roadlesstaken - She is a smart one then. :] If you had a hopeless romantic movie, I would watch it.
I think once you find a girl you want to be romantic for you will be romantic.
I always thought I wasn’t the lovey dovey type but now I would say I am. I try to spare the public though!
@Roadlesstaken - I think it’s a good thing! since you know, at least there will be no confusion. and you know what you want and you go after it. its a very hard thing for people to do , in my opinion.
@AmeliaHart - Yeah, I think that’s one thing I’ll probably do differently in the future; not involve the public as much. Oh, I’ve had some crazy ideas…
I can’t imagine that that side of you will ever go away. Tone down, perhaps, but not go away completely.
@Roadlesstaken - I’m betting she probably has them tucked away somewhere
I think that part will always be with you. It’ll likely surface again but it’ll depend on the person, the relationship and the circumstances. I think you will always have that romantic heart in you.
@christao408 - @ElusiveWords - Hope that will be the case!
Hmm… Remember that one conversation we had thismpast summer while having bubble tea about being jaded? Though I don’t think you are exactly jaded in the way that we discussed, maybe as you said you are trained to be more hesitant. Buttttt I have to say, that’s the cutest thing ever
maybe you’ll recall that spontaneity when you meet a girl you really really really like again.
Romanc and the notion of it makes people go crazy,vand though we can sometimes become lost in the hormones and daydreams and hopeful thoughts, it’s always good to keep it alive ^^
I’m sure you’ll revive it, but in due time…
Also I wrote this on my iPad. My freaking laptop has been broken for about 2 weeks.
no updates or commenting!! Pollo
@swtaznxtc90 - Pollo? Chicken? haha
I do remember talking about that. Yeah, after reading through people’s comment I think that side of me is just dormant right now waiting for the right opportunity to come out.
we all have that side in us whether we want to think about it or not
Even after the heartbreaks or disappointments, I will always believe there will be someone that makes me believe again. We should never allow our past to bother us so much as to not be able to enjoy our present and future. We deserve that much <3
Wow, thats really impressivly brave
I think it’s fantastic you could do that, means you really cared. And personally i hate that horrible limiting embarresment feeling (mainly because it rules me so much) that people can do this sort of thing gives me encouragment.
@Casa_blanca_lilies - That’s great you’re optimistic like that. I’m trying to stay that way.
@BFB1131 - I hate that feeling too. I’ve been experiencing that feeling a lot more often lately and I really don’t like giving in.
I actually think it’s a great quality to have. It’s good to be outside the norm and doing the far-fetched and romantic acts. It’s what sets you apart from every other guy. Granted… don’t go overboard… that’ll just get you into trouble. xD
@bengozen - speaking from experience yourself?
haha. i wouldn’t say that i’m quite quirky on this aspect. i’ve always more been the guy who tried to show i’d be the perfect husband when i was younger. and who’s thinking about long term relationships in middle school or high school? (this weird guy was) xD
I think it was very sweet of you to have done that to get her back. As long as you think she is worth fighting for, why not? There’s nothing wrong going overboard in the romance department for someone you love. =)
@SillyHelena - I like the way you think!
@Roadlesstaken - Thanks!
Ah, I love that movie!
Heyhey! Long time no see. Man, I’ve missed a lot, haven’t I? Congrats on the full-time status! and DEFINITELY congrats on gettin the girl.
And of course what you did was cheesy, but think about it, what if the only thing that convinced her to try again WAS because you did this cheesy thing? Would you risk doing something a little more conventional, and if she happened to say no, regret not doing all you could have?? Awesome idea and enactment. Congrats on your new journey together!
-Hyunj09
@hyunj09 - Thank you! Yes, you need to update and hang around Xangaland more often!
I think all you’ve been through have affected you but I also think that if it was a great girl you would pull out all the stops, no hesitation because you wouldn’t think the gesture was too grand.
I think when you find the next “right” girl, that side of you will probably come out! You should share more stories! heh. jk. sorta.
@LADYLILYTHAO - @aJoLLyDork - Find me this girl! Pronto!
@Roadlesstaken - Only if you find me a guy.
lucky girl.
@sweetboxc00kie - I was the luckier one =/
@fLiPgUy31O - haha.
@Roadlesstaken - Are you still with the same girl? I’m sure you still have it in you. It’s just not called for. Think of it as your adrenaline before a race/marathon. It won’t kick in until it’s time. Great writing!
@Casa_blanca_lilies - Great words of wisdom!
@Titan35 - Nah, I am not. This was about 5 years ago (wow, time flew by!)
@Roadlesstaken - Yes, time flies. Cherish when you can. Hope you find the right person!
As the 128th comment, I’m not entirely sure you’ll see this (haha), but I have to say something. I think that when you have a girl in your life who would benefit from your special romantic attention, you will have the opportunity to surprise her with hitherto unknown talent as a romantic. It’s not foolish if it’s done for HER rather than for your ego or as a one-time grand statement. If you get married one day, Alex, (and I’d say the odds are in your favor) then you’ll a lifetime to hone your romantic craft. What makes it special is when it is designed for one specific person. Over-the-top gestures aren’t the stuff of romance, IMO. Romance is when you’ve been married for five years, have a couple kids, and your husband pulls over on his way home from work to grab some wildflowers that were so unexpectedly lovely they made him think of you. (Yes, that happened.
) THAT’S romantic.
If you don’t have a reason to be romantic, don’t be. If you want practice for the day when you do have a reason, try making your friends and family feel special in little ways. That’ll be a better investment than your skills with posterboard and marker.
~V
@TheMarriedFreshman - I see everything!! Haha
I think you’re right though about romance. Over time, I would rather do smaller romantic gestures that are just as meaningful as the grand gestures.
Thanks for the advice, Advice Girl!
@Roadlesstaken - Hehe, I’m seriously considering making my MSpaint version of Advice Girl my profile picture.
that’s cute. i think being cheesy n romantic is the best ! even though it sounds lame, but when it’s the right guy, it’s really not lame! haha
xoxo hitomineko xoxo
@hitomineko - That’s cool you think that way =)
given all this cheese, would you be so brave as to recommend a bunch of romantic movies you’ve enjoyed in your next post?
Romance has to be used like a salt shaker or it will mean nothing in the end.
I LOVED that scene from the movie! And it certainly does take a lot of guts to pull off such a grand gesture. The other day, my friend was telling me how he reenacted a scene from a movie as well, but it didn’t turn out well for him. You got lucky.
i feel like i’ve been jaded as well after these experiences with relationships. but i agree with southeast beauty. when the right girl comes along, your inner self will be come out whether you like it or not.
@unfathomablelove - Haha what’s so brave about doing that? If you look through my Profile I listed a lot of my favorites on there. My most recent favorite is (500) Days of Summer.
@Evil10 - Good analogy.
@karen0z - Haha oh man, which scene was that? The musical scene in the beginning?
@mylilmei - Hope that’s the case!
@Roadlesstaken - It was her favorite scene from her favorite movie or something. Not sure which scene, but it involved singing and giving roses with him giving her the last rose or something.
By just seeing how popular you are among your friends, I think you’re a sweet and kind guy, Alex, maybe not only to your girlfriend, but also to your other friends as well,and there’s nothing wrong with that.
@icapillas - Thanks =)
Hey, AdorableA.! You share love and kindness and wisdom and fun around Xanga…so I hope you know how much we appreciate you here…and I hope you have a Happy
‘s Day…knowing you are loved!
HUGS!
N’awww you’re so sweet =D Keep doing it and don’t worry what other people thinks of you. I remember when guys use cheesy movie quotes, it scared me. LMAO
awwww
@Got_Claws - Well, I haven’t gone as far as use actual movie quotes haha
@adamswomanlost - Aw thank you. Valentine’s day was not bad =)
that sounds like a really cheesy and adorable thing to do, and clearly if she ended up getting back together with you she didn’t think it was too overboard. i think it’s sweet. =]
ps. happy birthday =]
pps. vanedave’s post about you is totally how i saw this.
@dude_this_world_sux - Oh how silly I was 4-5 years ago! Haha thanks!
I think that was one of my favorite scenes in the movie and I would probably melt if a guy ever did that for me. I’m glad you got your girl though because he didn’t…
@HeartLUST - He sorta got the girl, than left it before he became a homewrecker haha
@Roadlesstaken - eh, sorta, kinda, not really …doesn’t count, does it?
completely off topic, but isn’t THAT guy the cop in Walking Dead?
@theloniusmarx - Why yes, that would be him!
man, he can’t catch a break.
@theloniusmarx - Indeed. How sad.