September 8, 2010
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A Ladies’ Man, I Am Not
I’ve heard some people say I’m a ladies’ man. I’m thinking it’s mostly due to the perceived amount of female followers I have on here. When I hear that term being said about me, I don’t think that description is accurate at all. Why? First, look at exhibit A:
See? Nothing alike!Okay but seriously, what does being a ladies’ man actually entail? According to Urban Dictionary (which, as everyone knows, is the best source for definitions! … ) a “ladies’ man” is 1) A man who spends much time with women, or is in the constant company of them, 2) A man who is able to pleasure women in most any manner, 3) A man who tends towards female friends, rather then male friends, and 4) A man who the ladies love, easy to talk to, or love being around. A man who has the respect of them and well doesn’t need to kiss and tell, they do it for him.
Alright, while the 2nd description is undeniably factual (hehe) the other definitions are much more questionable. I wouldn’t say I’m in constant company of females nor do I have a tendency to have more female friends. In fact, when I think about all the people I’ve hung out with recently they have been overwhelmingly males, so there goes the 1st and 3rd definitions.
The 4th definition I can kind of see being related back to me, but it only tells a part of the story. Maybe it is true that, generally speaking, a lot of females feel comfortable talking and being around me, but I don’t think it’s specific only to them. Overall, I feel that most people I interact with (whether they’re male/female, old/young, etc.) feel that I’m an approachable guy. Of course I’m not foolish enough to think everyone is fond of me, but in general I feel I interact with people pretty well.
Now having said all that, I think a better description of me would be one given to characterize a “people person”, which Urban Dictionary describes as “someone who is friendly,warm and kind to strangers and people from all walks of life”. For me, I really just try to treat and respect people as much as I would like them to treat and respect me. Quite a simple philosophy to follow. When I hear someone describe me as just a “ladies’ man” or a “nice guy” I feel those classifications really sell me short of who I actually am.
Oh labels. I suppose of all things that could be said about me being depicted as a ladies’ man isn’t so awful. It’s just not true my friends!
Comments (105)
fine you’re not a ladies man alex, you’re the cupcaKING.
you’re more like the navi from avatar than the ladie’s man.
you just need to cross your legs and get an afro!
maybe it’s just me, but when I hear ‘ladies man’ I think player. Someone who always has a different girl on his arm every time you see him, and thats not cool. The only sense that you are a ladies man is the fact that you make girls feel comfortable and they enjoy your company, whether it be just friends or more, you don’t come off as a douche and thats why girls like you.
LOL. what a funny topic
I think if you grew an afro, you’d get all the ladies.
Yeah. What wutuwaitn4 said! =P
All kidding aside, I think you really are more of a “people person” and are just approachable in general.
I think the hair is sort of similar.
This entry would have gone so differently if I had written it.
Hmmm? Response post?
what do you mean nothing alike? i see that ‘fro of yours slowly forming into shape just like his! hehe
@junbelievable08 - haha nice on there
@sonychak - Err explain??
@wutuwaitn4 - That’s all it takes eh?
@crazypassions - Well I’m glad I don’t come off as a douche haha. Yeah, it’s interesting. I’ve heard many different definitions of ladies’ man, some positive and some negative.
@girl_smileyy - haha yes it is.
@whotakethmycoke - That’s the key you’re saying? I thought having a gunblade would work…
@Southeast_Beauty - I’m glad you agree. I just try to be generally decent with people period.
@vanedave - Haha go for it! Yeah, I can definitely see how it would sound different coming from you.
@Roadlesstaken - gunblades only work with a subset of the female population given its relative cultural obscurity. afro appeal on the other hand, transcends all races and cultural appeal. paired with 70′s clothing, and you’ll be to women what catnip is to felines.
I think you are kind and genuine person, very supportive, which makes you attractive as a friend to both boys and girls, men and women, and attractive more than as a friend to some ladies
hehe so maybe instead of the label ladies man…
Man of the people!
har har. if i had as many ladies as you have clambering to proclaim their undying love for me, i’d maybe even have a girlfriend.
lol oh man… I still say you’re a ladies’ man.
Yep, I think you are a ‘people-person’. But the ladies are seemingly quite fond of you.
Hmm yes, you definitely seem to be a people person. You could probably be a ladies man if you wanted to; you’re so da’gumm cute! But hey, that speaks to your character that you dont abuse your looks to load up on the females. Bahahhaaa.
Alright then Mr. People Person! xD But you know what people describe us by how the way we treat them…could be very subjective. Anyway, doesn’t matter as long as they enjoy your company.
I think you’re more of a tease than a ladies’ man lol
STILL
you’re quite the people charmer…
People person=ladies man. Why fight it?
@Simply_Mizz_J - I probably could grow out a nice looking fro if I wanted to. My dad had one at my age haha
@whotakethmycoke - Sooo why don’t you have an afro?
@cal_islander - I approve of that! Thanks for the compliment btw.
@snapeful - Oh the reports of those are grossly exaggerated.
@fLiPgUy31O - Well that’s not true! WEHHH!!!!
@Keeko1 - “seemingly” is the key word there =P
@Eternalimplosion - maybe when I work my way up from cute to handsome I could maybe do that haha. Assuming that I want to of course.
@oxyGENE_08 - Yeah, as long as I’m an overall positive person one likes to have around that’s pretty good for me!
@Yohkom - Oh whatever do you mean? I never ever tease…
@ordinary_gir1 - Are you trying to say I charmed you?
@Ampbreia - haha well in my opinion I don’t think those terms are exactly the same.
@Roadlesstaken - oh alex, dont think too highly of yourself
@Roadlesstaken - LIES! LMAO
@ordinary_gir1 - Hey I didn’t say anything about me. Just asking a simple question my Canadian friend.
@Yohkom - I never lie
The first thing a ladies’ man usually does is deny that he’s a ladies’ man. I see you, Alex. I see what you did there, you sly dawg
I’m totally a ladies’ man. Er… woman.
@Roadlesstaken - d’aww. all these assumptions. you are handsome you silly lil gosling! assuming that you want to be handsome, im sure you could ruin it by wearing sack-cloth and growing a zz-top beard. but each to his own.
4th description doesn’t make you a ladies man. It makes you the Mr. Nice Guy. You’re the guy all the girls run to when their boyfriend is being an a-hole to them… and that’s it. Heck, you bought the shirt for it.
@NoHeroesForTomorrow - I did nothing of such! Mhmm.
@randaness - you attract all the girls to the yard?
@Eternalimplosion - Damn, the zz-top beard was totally going to be the next thing I was gonna do. Thanks for saving me!
@stupid_systemus - Ah Jose, I can always rely on you to knock on me. The 4th description was from Urban Dictionary, so it must be true!
@Roadlesstaken - The ‘ladies man’ is a general description of what many people have perceived what a ladies man is supposed to be. If a bunch of people keep saying the same thing (read as lies), it becomes truth if enough people believe in it.
In the end, all that matters is that you’ll find someone who sees you as the ‘ladies man’ to their eyes.
)
(I knock you down, but bring you up again
i agree w/ heather!
@stupid_systemus - The bringing up part feels much better =D
@rxglasshalffull - What?? Now when have I teased you? Well, actually…
I think you’d rock the Meadows fro though!
being a ladies man is cool for like, the first 10 minutes with a girl – but after that, you’ve got to be a genuine person. ladies’ men are overrated.
@Roadlesstaken - because my head appears big enough as it is :/
@whotakethmycoke - And maybe grow some facial hair…lol…
Well in regards to having more female followers…hmm…I have more male followers than female so what does that make me?
@CareyGLY - haha I should post a picture of my dad when he was my age with that hair style
@ThePrince - I’m fine with having one good lady with me =D
@whotakethmycoke - It’s okay, I understand (fellow big head Asian)
@Utoppia@datingish - you’re clearly a men’s lady.
I always think ‘ladies man’ as a player. Haha.You totally don’t define it. think girls like you because you can be charming when you want to.Afterall, you are a great friend! Both to XX and XY :p
Ladies’ man does have a somewhat negative connotation to it, so maybe it’s better that you’re not labeled as such. And I wouldn’t say you’re a “nice guy” since that has vague meaning behind it, but from what I’ve seen, I think you’re a good guy, which is really the best you can do, if we’re not talking about superficiality.
you are a meanie :P
if it makes you feel any better, i never thought you were a ladies man
lolol
Perhaps you are a man for all – friend of all people, enemy of none?
@crazypassions - yes i agree with you
I’ve always felt you treat people with respect and you don’t mind poking fun at yourself every so often. People seem to feel comfortable around you and probably open up to you easier than with others.
I have been told by quite a few girls that I am like an older brother that they never had…would you have prefer that instead?
teach me your ways sensei!
ha, really though, you’re one of the coolest, laid back people on xanga.
@silverlocket_88 - I noticed that some people associate player and ladies’ man as the same. Idk, for me I feel there’s a slight difference. Players are more of a ho than a ladies’ man haha
@x_onholiday - I’ll take that =)
@s_h_a_sha - And you’re a fool that needs to study! Go study fool!
@LadyLuck7 - Haha, thank you.
@christao408 - I have some enemies, but vastly more friends =D
@ElusiveWords - Yeah, I’m my favorite person to pick on =P
I don’t really agree with those ladies man definititions though. I definitely meet a lot of ladies men who hang out with mostly guys. But when they talk to a girl, boy can they talk to a girl!
lucky I’m immune to bs tho >.<
@Trigger821 - That’s not bad. Big brothers are cool, although in some cases that sorta like being friend-zoned =O
@H0Eass - Thanks, I appreciate that
@Prim_Prim4488 - I just say those guys have supreme game haha
Lol. Definitely love this.
Ladies men don’t exist in the real world, only on Xanga.
You can define the phrase any which way you like.
I’m not sure I have quite a definition for it though myself.
But I do prefer being called a people person. =)
i am a guy’s lady XD haha i joke i joke i dont think there is such a thing but there should be >:D
You are waaaaaay more handsome that The Ladies Man…and it sounds like you are smarter and sweeter. Being a people person who respects others and treats them like he wants to be treated sounds like you are on the right track.
Keep being you!
oh please… you and that guy look like distant cousins!
@Roadlesstaken - that’s why you the man bro.
i always thought ladies man are guys that are like a girl
Howzabout AWESOME?
yes, simply awesome.
@junbelievable08 - haha
Alex’s strategy: deny deny deny! oh and write a blog post about it lol
Dude Shawn’s right, you’re the Cupcaking. Big time.
denying the fact in public will not make me believe you.
Cute choice of topic. I know alot of men who THINK they are a “ladies man.” Maybe I should share your research with them (ha ha)
okay forget ladies man how about “the xanga chick magnet”
I would love to meet you one day in person.
@cal_islander - agreed
and you’re cute too =) hehehe
@Himeki - that phrase is much more neutral too
@itsayanav - Go be guys’ lady and make that term more well known!
@adamswomanlost - aw thank you for the compliments =)
@HeLLo_Bianca - Haha oh yes, how did you figure it out? Smart cookie
@maniacsicko - No no no, that’s LADY MAN haha
@LAXSFTOK1 - Glad you approve!
@Texana - I’ll take that!
@theHealthRabbit - I have ZERO idea what you mean =P
@shillykins - Even greater than you?
@juiCyer - What can I do to convince you?
@bloggingqueen - haha go for it
@ArmyDoll - haha don’t think that’s true either, but I guess that’s better than being Xanga’s douche or something.
@HeartLUST - That would be nice!
@Hinase - cal_islander is cute huh? haha
The “Ultimate Ladies Man” denies that he is a ladies man. Good play Alex.
this post looks like the words of a ladies man. only a TRUE ladies man would deny being a ladies man. Im on to you.
@Roadlesstaken - and so are you =))
@junbelievable08 - shawn, that was epic. HEYOOOOO *snap* It is consequently, an honor to know you.
I WISH YOU WERE *THIS* LADY’S MAN!!! *fangirl squeeeeeeeeeeeal*
Yeah, I bet that’ll shut you up, playa.
@TheTheologiansCafe - @amateurprose - Interesting theories guys, but I speak the truth!
@nimbusthedragon - It would be a honor to be your man. If only you would accept me.
@Roadlesstaken - Well, that shut ME up.
…….. PIMP!
why dnt u go have sex nd relieve urself
ur super hot though
@QAYYA - haha thank you
@Roadlesstaken - i was joking D: .XD
yeah, you do seem like an approachable person
you’re very nice! and you write interesting blogs.
as for a ladies’ man… maybe if you grew out an afro
oh well who knows maybe you are a ladies man. haha. alex! O_o you don’t know me much as a xangan but random thought. for my chem lab class, i have this TA dude that’s like the VIET version of you. so freakish hahah. sorry i just had to say it! O___O.
@kyukyucar - So I’ve been suggested. Man, if I did I would REALLY look like my dad when he was my age.
@Asianrockgurl - haha, have a picture of him?
Alex, you are a PEOPLE PERSON in my opinion and by no means a ladies man…Kuddos for that, being a people person…its just silly how labels get in the way of everything!!! Happy Friday to ya!
Erm, you definitely look better than Don Cheadle in that poster! I think that’s him…
Anyhoo, you’re very kind and caring. Women actually like nice people, contrary to what the popular belief is. The whole “badass/asshole” act is quite often a turnoff.
Those are surprisingly good definitions for Urban Dictionary, and now that I see that, I realize I’m a ladies’ man. I always associated it with a connotation of being a man slut, but I guess it doesn’t have to mean that.
@grammarboy - Some of the other definitions did have the connotations of being a player, if you associate that with man slut haha
@airbornerose - haha nah that’s Tim Meadows, but I see how you could have thought that was Don.
@Endless21Echos - Exactly! Happy Friday (well, now Saturday night) to you too!
@Roadlesstaken - wow. he looks so much like him…
naw …. youre a ” nice ladies man people person guy” HOW ABOUT THAT FOR A NEW LABEL?!?!?
@jeannie_dot_com - Haha not sure if that rolls off the tongue as well
hello!
I haven’t been on xanga in such a long time, and it’s always so nice reading your site!hm i’d definitely say you’re a very genuine and friendly person which definitely comes through your writing
@xxLilPauliexx - no you have not! Remedy that! =D
i like your new layout its spiffy and you being a peoples person sounds about right. your really easy to talk to and your like the only person that asks me questions on formspring that acutally make me thing.
I LOVE YOU!!! IMPREGNATE ME!!!
lol
ha
OMG who accused you of that…WHO? Bad person, bad.
@boyhnc - Weee! Airbornerose did a good job with my site =D
@Daniella_Aalyiah_Li - I thought I already have?? j/k
@Diva_Jyoti - haha well some people have different definitions of ladies’ man, both good and bad. I’m just saying just take that label off of me altogether and we’ll be all good!
@Roadlesstaken - I think I would remember a night like that
a ladies man is just a people person who also happens to be cute. =)
The ladies still love you. You’ve gotta admit that.
@suuperstar - Implying anything there?
@jumpthenfly - I guess better they love than hate me!
He’s cool, he’s clean, he’s a love machine; LOL, wow.
I feel like those labels are kind of confining. It’s weird trying to fight the labels, which I also try to do from time to time. (:
@phosphor_stars - They are confining, but I guess they do have their uses when you need to make a quick description of someone.