March 5, 2009

• Five Love Life Tales

  So, I guess I did do a really good job disgusting the false statement amongst the four true statements.  Out of everyone who guessed, only four people got it correct.  I’ll go through all the true stories first before I get to the false one.
  
  I have dated a girl I initially met through an online dating website. = True!
   
  A lot of people thought this was the fake one because it seems either they misread a comment I left on another post (I wrote I never dated anyone I met through Xanga, but I didn’t say anything about other sites!) or they thought I was too good to try out an online dating website.  We make friends all the time online, so why not find dates as well?  As long as the internet isn’t your ONLY source of meeting people it seems normal enough to me.
  
  

  
  Press it, you know you’re curious…
  

  
  In reality, I actually did partake in a dating website not too long ago, although not for the the obvious reasons.  I used to be a pretty active user on OkCupid, mainly because I was addicted to all the tests on that site as well as answering questions that shaped my personality awards.  I got a few of my friends (both guys and girls) to join as well, and we would sometimes compare test scores and what not. 
  
  Eventually, we decided to try out the website for the reason it was intended, just out of curiosity to see if it actually works.  It was then that I started talking with a girl from that website whom I later found out went to my college.  After a few messages, we eventually arranged to go on a date that went pretty well.  We went on a few more dates before one day we just stopped.  I think we were both cool with each other, but we never did achieve that chemistry.  It was still a more or less good experience.
  
  In case you’re wondering, I’m not very active on that site anymore.  I do a few tests here and there, but I’m not regularly looking for people on that site.  I have nothing against using online dating as one of the ways for people to find others to date.  Although there can be some weirdos on there (like there are in real life), it is definitely a legitimate way to meet someone (especially for people that are busy all the time).  Girls seems to have more luck though; guys mostly initiate messages and it seems like there’s a whole lot more guys than girls on those sites.  Go figure. 
  
  I wore a sash that said “Cupid” on a Valentine’s Day date. = True!
  
  

  
  

  Circa February 2005
  

  
  Yup, there’s the photographic proof.  At the time, I was planning to go out to eat with my then girlfriend for Valentine’s Day.  I didn’t plan to wear a sash though; it just sort of happened.  I was helping a club at my school find some old props in a box when I came about this sash that said “Cupid” on it.  The club didn’t really have much use for it, so I asked if I could take it.  They said sure, so I decided “Oh why not?” and put it on just for my Valentine’s Day date.  It was kind of silly now that I think back, but at least it gave my girlfriend a good laugh.  Hmm, I wonder what ever happened to that sash.
  
  I went out on a 7+ hour date at a bubble tea shop. = True!
  
  

  
  

  Bubble/Boba tea, both refer to the same thing
  

  
  I was surprised that people didn’t believe you can be at a bubble tea place for that long, but it happened to me.  I decided to take this girl out to this bubble tea place for our first date.  I’m really fond of the drinks, food, and the laid back atmosphere of the place, so I was sure she would dig it.  She and I ended up clicking extremely well all night, talking about everything without any moments of awkward silence.  What also made our stay there so long was the television that was right in front of our table.  I forgot which movies were playing, but we ended up watching three whole movies while chilling on our comfortable couch. 
  
  That was one of the best dates I’ve ever had where everything went right.  What happened between the girl and I?  Well, we ended up in a pretty good relationship soon after that date, but it didn’t last as long as it should have due to her moving away.  Long distance is a killer .  It’s alright though; there were many great memories and I’m thankful for the time we did have together.
  
  I have given roses to a girl I’ve only met once. = True!
  
  Okay, so I might have stretch the truth a little with this one.  While I did give roses to a complete stranger, those roses weren’t really meant for her.  Confused? 
  
  Back in early November, I wrote up a protected post about a recent failed mission of mine where I was going to admit my feelings to a good friend (very difficult to do, in my opinion).  Maybe if enough people are interested I’ll make that post public for you to read (UPDATED:  oh why not, I’ll make it public.  Here’s the link.), but long story short everything that could have gone wrong went wrong that night.  At the end of that night, I was holding onto a dozen pink roses I had bought for her but was not going to give to her due to some um, unforeseen circumstances. 
  
  

  
  The flowers looked like these, minus the vase
  

  
  “What am I going to do with these fresh roses?” I wondered.   I thought about just giving it to my mom, but I knew she would just chastise me for spending money on something that would just die soon.  I also thought about giving it to friends for them to give to someone, but that didn’t work out either.
  
  In the end, I decided not to throw away the flowers and instead give it to a random girl.  I browsed around the mall for a while before I found a girl working as a cashier at Starbucks.  I went over and delivered the flowers to her, under the pretenses that I was doing it on behalf of a secret admirer.  She seemed super happy about the flowers, so I’m glad the roses ended up making at least one girl’s day.  Hopefully, she isn’t still waiting for her “secret admirer” to make his next move 0_0 .
  
  I asked out my first girlfriend mainly due to a dare. = FALSE!!!
  
  The very first statement I listed was the fake one.  I thought it was interesting how so many people didn’t pick that.  I wonder why.
  
  So what’s the true story?  Well, it was junior year of high school (I was a late bloomer).  My friend recently bought this book called “The Art of Seduction” and was reading it in school.  I made fun of him, saying that he was an idiot for believing that crap.  We argued back and forth about whether the book was legit or a scam, so I finally agreed to read the book and try out some of the tips before I made my final opinion on it.
  
  

  
  

  Psh whatever, like THIS would work
  

  
  I chose a female friend of mine to try the techniques on.  We were long time friends but weren’t that close, so I thought she would be an ideal person to test it on.  I figured if it failed (which I was sure it would), it wouldn’t cause too much overall harm.
  
  Oh my God, I can’t believe that book worked.  Within a couple of weeks, we got close enough that I was able to asked her out and she said yes.  Amazing.
  
  We ended up only dating for just a month however.  To be honest, I really only saw her as a friend and we really only got into a relationship due to that book, not due to real feelings.  She and I are good friends now, so it all worked out.
  
  Don’t worry, ever since then I’ve only gone for girls I truly have feelings for.  If anything, I have to thank that book for giving me the confidence I have now.  I guess my friend was right about the merits of that book all along.
  
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  Kudos to TheCheshireGrins, Spyder_V, superblessed and snowy87days for guessing correctly (and ch10n9, I suppose )!  I hope you enjoyed reading about my experiences.
  

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