Thursday, 09 April 2009

  • "So, What Did You Major In?"

    Urgh.

    Over time, I've started to hate hearing someone ask me that question.  It's not that I'm ashamed of what I majored in; it's the way that some people obviously start to judge me in their heads.  Here's an example:

    Person:  "So, what did you major in?"
    Me:  "I majored in psychology."
    Person:  "Oh, okay." 

    (Pause for a few seconds)

    Person:  "So um, what do you want to do with that?"

    Now on paper (well, in this case on computer), that whole conversation seems innocent enough.  However, in person I can pick up slight body language and/or tones that alerts me that the person is thinking something else.  In this case, I sense that the person is thinking this:

    Oh, psychology.  I was expecting accounting, science, or information systems.  What can he do with that major?  Not looking to make money probably.

    I don't like acting paranoid thinking that everyone who asked me that question proceeds to think in that manner, but I know for a fact some people have.  Most of those people have been older aquaintances or relatives, some that don't even know what psychology is ("So, do you read minds or something?", my aunt once asked me).  In a lot of ways, their judgmental attitudes have made me feel like I've made a bad decision for choosing my major.

    Look, going through college I already knew the limitations of a psychology major.  Unless I went into grad school, I knew it would be very hard to find a great job that relates to psychology.  I think my friend Tricia, a fellow psychology major, put it best:  "I have the most useful useless degree ever... I can do anything and nothing at the same time... yay for psych!"

    Indeed, I have encountered a lot of obstacle since graduating.  Even though I graduated magna cum laude with tons of honors and experiences, I've had a hard time finding a job in something I want to do with just a B.A. in psychology.  Of course a part of it has to do with the economy, but I know a part of it has to do with my major as well.

    With all that being said, I do not regret the decision to be a psychology major.  I firmly believe that I wouldn't be the understanding and empathetic person I am today had I done something else.  I'm pretty sure that had I wanted to, I could have majored in science or computers and would have done well.  However, I knew that in the long run I wouldn't be happy doing stuff like that.  Sure, money might be better, but I prefer to deal with the more human aspects of life.  Given the chance, I would choose something I'm passionate about over something that can make me tons of money.  In my mind, happiness trumps monetary reward any day.

    At the moment, I'm still pursuing a job working for the USTA.  It may not make the most money, but I would be doing something I love (tennis) while getting the chance to travel across the country.  As a back-up, I'm still planning to attend graduate school in the fall to become an industrial/organizational psychologist (which, surprisingly, makes pretty decent money).  The only downside with that is the cost of attending graduate school, as well as the fact that I would be returning to school (papers and exams again?  Yuck!).

    Given the chance to go back in time, I would definitely choose to be a psychology major all over again.  It can be a harder and longer path to success, but I know that in the end I would be the happiest doing this over something else.  I just wish I didn't feel the need to be so defensive about it all the time.

Comments (383)

  • recklesslyming
    I wanna major in psychology too, I find it interesting, it's just that Asian people expect us to be like doctors or something because it makes a lot of money. I don't get why the Chinese family don't get the difference between finding something you love & something that makes a lot of money, & what your aunt said is funny, I can just imagine lol
  • recklesslyming
    Oh & traveling across the country - I wanna do that too !
  • Dylan_Disast3r
    I don't get whats wrong with psychology, I wanna major in social and consumer psychology when I grow up. :P
    Psychology is so broad with so many different uses, I love psychology :P
  • Roadlesstaken

    @JetaimeMing - 

    It didn't help that my aunt's daughter ended up being a doctor X_X . Ah expectations...

    @Dylan_Disast3r - 

    Exactly, there isn't anything wrong with it persay. I guess it's because it's not known for it's job potential, at least with just a bachelors degree.
  • mycontinuity

    I'll trade you degrees.

  • BabyGurlDragon88
    I have thought about that major before and I kept switching it until around HS I was working with the company and learned a lot of stuff and so I pick business as my major lol and in the long run computers later on =D
  • recklesslyming

    @Roadlesstaken - 

    ugh i hate that, my parents want me to become a doctor too but i'm like no mom no, then they tell me that there's no point in me going to school if i'm not gonna become anything lol but whatever, it's what you want to do :)
  • iso_whiteSnow

    so, are you good at picking up some chicks with your psychology abilities now?
    HAHAHA.

    anyways, when will you attend community college for two years to get a degree. it wouldnt hurt to be a physical therapist?

  • ChineseTwinkiePrincess
    That Tricia sounds awesome... =oP

    What about when you meet people your age? Do they tend to back off a little bit too, because they automatically think you're analyzing them?
  • Cuenquita
    I think being a psych major is cool, I actually thought about doing that. At least it's not art!! Before I had picked my graphic design concentration, and I told people I was an art major people would make remarks like, "do you want fries with that?" or say something like "oh, that's so easy". I was like pffft. It is not easy.
  • randaness
    I'm a psych major, too, and I say people DEFINITELY act that way...
  • Casa_blanca_lilies
    Ind/org psych is great! I originally wanted to do that. It is just so interesting! I took a lot of psych courses in college and enjoyed them very much! My major was bioeng and molecular cell bio w/emphasis in cell develop bio :)
  • HyperHTL
    Good for you! I don't think you have anything to regret.
    I have regrets about my major and I'm starting to feel like it's not practical and I'm a science major!
  • nice_girl589
    I think everything is what you make it to be. My parents had their expectations of me being a doctor, but that crashed and burn because I hate seeing people in pain; I opted to major in general nutrition and sport medicine because I enjoy it more. But for my mom she still has hopes that I'll marry a doctor, but I think deep deep down inside she know it won't happen... haha!
  • rianahntr
    I have a BA in English... and I work for a non-for-profit/law firm as an Assistant IT Manager.
  • decembriel
    Wow, I think I know exactly how you feel. People give me that same reaction when they learn that I am majoring in psychology. Part of it may be due to the fact that the only conception of psychologist they have is the psychotherapist/"shrink" (which doesn't make sense for a person as seemingly cold and unsociable as me). In fact, I'm more interested in being a research psychologist, not a counselor. But a lot of people don't understand the fact that psychology has these subfields, such as industrial/organizational, that can be well-paying and practically-oriented. Even my own mother has tried to discourage me from majoring in psychology because she doesn't believe it could get me a job. So like you, I feel kind of defensive whenever people ask about my major--because they often really do seem to be disapproving.
  • karen0z
    I'm currently majoring in Psychology and I have no idea what I want to do.
  • the_pokerfaced
    I feel the same way too, especially around my mom. Not only when it comes to deciding in what course I'll take, but also in the little things I do. Oh well... I'm still only in high school, and I'm not sure if I can ever pick a course I'd want for college. Life is too short for me so I decided that when I do become an adult, I won't just stick to one career. I want to make the most out of everything. Psychology sounds interesting, but I'm more into the philosophy of life.
  • mixedbabiesrock
    Psych majors are sexy ;) I did Psych and Bio double major.

    Could be worse, you could have majored in Philosophy. No option there but to teach or start a cult. DONT DRINK THE KOOLAID!!!
  • xLove_Me_Alwaysx
    Defensive is a good word to describe how people look at humanities/social science majors. I get blank looks and my dorm JANITOR even freaking told me I wouldn't be able to do anything with a degree in Social Welfare and Asian American Studies.
  • a_drunken_cellist
    I'm sure most people don't really react the way you think they do (I'm projecting, by the way). For example, if someone I just met told me they were majoring in art history, I probably would have asked the same thing, not because I believe it's a useless major, but just off the top of my head, I can't really think of much one can do with that degree, so naturally I'm curious about what they had in mind when they majored in that. Granted, I'm a biochemistry major and don't really have the same problem, so maybe I don't actually understand what it's like...but from my experience, I highly respect people who go into fields that do not immediately seem to have any "practical" status, as it shows that they actually have a passion for what they're doing. I know that there are many people who major in biology just to go to med school and become a doctor even though they don't actually have much respect for the field itself.
  • UnopenedSuitcases
    i'm not a psych major, but i want to be. so i chose something kinda related. not really. human resouce and management {along with something else} LOL. not really psych but i figured it was close enough for me :) well best of luck to you! Hopefully you find a great job and all :D
  • Agent_Eric
    My friend found a successful career in HR. I'm a business major that works in government. Another friend that has a degree in bio is working as a tax accountant. It's about how you apply yourself that counts.
  • makethemakersmile

    to me psychology is the most normal major ever. like, one of the main ones to make the parents happy and be on the road to a good job... but, im coming from the perspective of music major....

  • lil_squirrel4ever

    I hear you 110%.  As you know I'm a psych/english major, and I have gotten all sorts of out-there comments like "what, are you going to be a poet"? or "wow--you must be good at reading minds".  Yeah...psychology NOT psychic..haha.  Anyway, I am a big advocate of following your true passions and talents (something I want to touch upon on my new Xanga coming soon!!), and I am a firm believer that you can never go wrong if you go with what you truly enjoy (ie. Tennis).  Yes money is always a motivating factor, but the money will always be there no matter what, and I can attest to that.  A degree does not guarantee income--but it can open doors.  More importantly who you are, and your experiences combined, is a better indicator of where you will go. 

    And based on what I know--all the liberal arts majors I've ever known are intelligent, flexible people with the ability to communicate effectively and think critically--very important skills to have in this world right now and tomorrow!

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